Tears can be real and still be a trap. The line that wrecked me: “I’ve grown fluent in sorrow but a stranger to repentance.” What’s one practical change you know you need to make this week—not “someday”?
Lord thank you for not giving up on me, thank you for exposing my self deception and wickedness, thank you for showing me how wretched I truly am. Now Lord I surrender to the best of my knowledge my flesh and myself, I repent, forgive me of my unrepentance, my falsehood, bring me to the foot of Thy Cross where I'll loose my identity and take on yours. Lead me Lord back to Thee…
Self-deception is the act of hiding the truth from yourself to protect your ego, avoid pain, or justify behaviors that contradict your values. In a spiritual or moral context, this often manifests as "false repentance"—where you admit to a fault to relieve guilt but never actually change because you haven't confronted the root of the problem.
gregg vanourek
gregg vanourek
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Why Repentance Fails
The "Repentance as Relief" Trap: Many people use repentance as a way to "anesthetize" their guilt. By saying sorry, you feel better in the moment, which reduces the psychological pressure to actually change your behavior.
Avoidance of "Fierce Reality": Change requires acknowledging painful truths. Self-deception allows you to minimize the seriousness of your actions or blame others, which leaves you helpless to solve the actual issue.
Rationalization: You may persuade yourself that a wrong action is actually moral or "not that bad" given the circumstances. This "crooked thinking" justifies staying in the same cycle.
Psi Chi, The International Honor Society in Psychology
Psi Chi, The International Honor Society in Psychology
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Signs You Are Self-Deceived
Constant Excuses: You always have a "good reason" for failing to meet commitments or repeating mistakes.
Blaming and Victimization: You focus on how others have mistreated you to avoid looking at your own role in a conflict.
Defensiveness: You feel threatened or angry when others challenge your behavior or offer feedback.
Double-Mindedness: You want the benefits of a "good life" or spiritual peace without doing the hard work of obeying your own values or beliefs.
Therapy in a Nutshell
Therapy in a Nutshell
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How to Break the Cycle
Radical Accountability: Stop asking why others need to change and ask, "How am I responsible for this situation?".
Monitor Emotional Triggers: When you feel a strong urge to justify yourself, pause. That reaction is often a shield for a truth you don't want to admit.
Seek External Perspectives: Because self-deception is a "blind spot," you need trusted friends or a professional to give you honest feedback.
Practice "Fierce Honesty": Use tools like the Arbinger Institute’s resources or books like Lies We Tell Ourselves to study your own patterns of denial.
This channel needs to repent — making it appears its a sermon from Spurgeon – when its only "inspired by the writings of Spurgeon". I'm not in disagreement about what is said – but that Spurgeon never said these words…
I got addicted to sexual immortality without knowing and only came to realise it later The thing with sin addiction is that it starts with doing it today then go for days without sinning then comback to it and the periods of not sinning reduce while those where you sin increase and when you reach apoint where it's consistent you start comparing yourself to others thinking yours is not as bad as theirs and the cycle continues . May God forgive our ridiculousness and pride to think we are better than others
Lord, have mercy on me. The things I make effort to refrain from are the things I find myself doing. I make effort to work with you but end up working away from you. Strenthen the me in me that is after your nature o Lord. Abuja Nigeria
Kentucky. I’ve cried over my sexual sin, sh, inner and outward hatred, lying, anger, but have been deceiving myself in the past my repentance was more genuine. Now it has become fake. Jesus help me to truly repent from my sins and move forward in Christ.
Euless Texas, Hayden Hudson. I've battle with all this for at least 10 or more years. Heavenly Father, I've battles against Sexual Immorality with Pornography, Pride in thinking I'm better than others, Arrogance, Ignorance along with those in not changing or not wanting to when I should of changed, Self Deception and Believing Lies in some areas that I have not changed, Addictions like Gaming or other areas that take my time away from our Heavenly Father and distract me from truth and embracing in my life. Adultery looking at woman with lustful eyes when I shouldn't. Love of sin chasing after temporary false joy or pleasures that I try to fill the hole in my Heart. Unforgiveness and Resentment from my past abusive physical from my Father and others done Mentally through their hurtful words. Blindness from all things that I want removed, Purged with our Heavenly Fathers Holy Fire upon my Heart, Soul, Mind, Spirit, Spirit, and Tung. Please Pray for me if anybody reads this, he's helped me change this far I want full change that they not see me but truly Christ Completely in every way. Thank you for this wonderful video and truth that his Love, I'm dearly grateful so much. If anyone here would pray these things and anything that comes to heart he puts upon you that would be amazing if you'd pray it for me please may he bless you all and Shalom Shalom. Heavenly Father I leave everything all that I typed in your hands and feet changed this Heart dearly in True Repentance please. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.
Our pastor spoke on this subject this morning. I saw this video after coming home. Wow, God has my attention. My compromise …..I can't allow God to occupy second place for any reason.
Lord,Abba, Father, have mercy on us sinners. Hear our cries and thirst for godly repentance that reflects the same type of brokenness of our sins like in psalm 51. Lord, draws to your Son as it is written in John 6:44. Lord, it is also written that you will not turn away one person who comes to you in repentance in faith. Have mercy on us. For those Lord, who are listening, including myself, cut us to the quick, remove our heart of stone and give us a heart of flesh. Have mercy on us sinners.
Brothers and sisters be encouraged by these words and if you find yourself being this person cry out to Yahweh until a miracle is done.
I love Psalm 19. I want to encourage everybody reading this to read that song today in the LSP. It’s more of a literal translation. At the end when you hear, presumptuous sins, that means willful sins. Listen to it over and over.
calhoun USA
Leyland Lancashire UK
Tears can be real and still be a trap. The line that wrecked me: “I’ve grown fluent in sorrow but a stranger to repentance.” What’s one practical change you know you need to make this week—not “someday”?
Forgive me Father from all my sin in JESUS Name Amen
Holy Spirit help me, so sorry for the false repentance 😢😢😢
Hearing this from Kerala, India.
Lord thank you for not giving up on me, thank you for exposing my self deception and wickedness, thank you for showing me how wretched I truly am. Now Lord I surrender to the best of my knowledge my flesh and myself, I repent, forgive me of my unrepentance, my falsehood, bring me to the foot of Thy Cross where I'll loose my identity and take on yours.
Lead me Lord back to Thee…
Kalamazoo, Michigan.
South Africa 🇿🇦
How do you level the death of sin with grace and your actions? Wouldn’t some call that legalism
Self-deception is the act of hiding the truth from yourself to protect your ego, avoid pain, or justify behaviors that contradict your values. In a spiritual or moral context, this often manifests as "false repentance"—where you admit to a fault to relieve guilt but never actually change because you haven't confronted the root of the problem.
gregg vanourek
gregg vanourek
+3
Why Repentance Fails
The "Repentance as Relief" Trap: Many people use repentance as a way to "anesthetize" their guilt. By saying sorry, you feel better in the moment, which reduces the psychological pressure to actually change your behavior.
Avoidance of "Fierce Reality": Change requires acknowledging painful truths. Self-deception allows you to minimize the seriousness of your actions or blame others, which leaves you helpless to solve the actual issue.
Rationalization: You may persuade yourself that a wrong action is actually moral or "not that bad" given the circumstances. This "crooked thinking" justifies staying in the same cycle.
Psi Chi, The International Honor Society in Psychology
Psi Chi, The International Honor Society in Psychology
+5
Signs You Are Self-Deceived
Constant Excuses: You always have a "good reason" for failing to meet commitments or repeating mistakes.
Blaming and Victimization: You focus on how others have mistreated you to avoid looking at your own role in a conflict.
Defensiveness: You feel threatened or angry when others challenge your behavior or offer feedback.
Double-Mindedness: You want the benefits of a "good life" or spiritual peace without doing the hard work of obeying your own values or beliefs.
Therapy in a Nutshell
Therapy in a Nutshell
+4
How to Break the Cycle
Radical Accountability: Stop asking why others need to change and ask, "How am I responsible for this situation?".
Monitor Emotional Triggers: When you feel a strong urge to justify yourself, pause. That reaction is often a shield for a truth you don't want to admit.
Seek External Perspectives: Because self-deception is a "blind spot," you need trusted friends or a professional to give you honest feedback.
Practice "Fierce Honesty": Use tools like the Arbinger Institute’s resources or books like Lies We Tell Ourselves to study your own patterns of denial.
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Charlotte, N.C. U.S.A.
What a powerful and convicting message! Tears are not proof of repentance but obedience is! 🙏. I needed to hear this!!
This channel needs to repent — making it appears its a sermon from Spurgeon – when its only "inspired by the writings of Spurgeon". I'm not in disagreement about what is said – but that Spurgeon never said these words…
I got addicted to sexual immortality without knowing and only came to realise it later
The thing with sin addiction is that it starts with doing it today then go for days without sinning then comback to it and the periods of not sinning reduce while those where you sin increase and when you reach apoint where it's consistent you start comparing yourself to others thinking yours is not as bad as theirs and the cycle continues .
May God forgive our ridiculousness and pride to think we are better than others
Abuja Nigeria
Lord I repent from anger.
From cameroon, Here i am asking God to change me and turn my sorrow into transformation REAL TRANSFORMATION😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Did you use Ai for this content? Where's the reference for the original sermon?
India.. God help me in real repentance..
So does this mean that true repentance means you will never commit that sin again?
Lord, have mercy on me. The things I make effort to refrain from are the things I find myself doing. I make effort to work with you but end up working away from you. Strenthen the me in me that is after your nature o Lord.
Abuja Nigeria
Chicago USA
Please Jesus cause in me a repentant heart, to obey in public and in secret.
Dallas Texas, praying for freedom from sexual immortality.
Kentucky. I’ve cried over my sexual sin, sh, inner and outward hatred, lying, anger, but have been deceiving myself in the past my repentance was more genuine. Now it has become fake. Jesus help me to truly repent from my sins and move forward in Christ.
Euless Texas, Hayden Hudson. I've battle with all this for at least 10 or more years. Heavenly Father, I've battles against Sexual Immorality with Pornography, Pride in thinking I'm better than others, Arrogance, Ignorance along with those in not changing or not wanting to when I should of changed, Self Deception and Believing Lies in some areas that I have not changed, Addictions like Gaming or other areas that take my time away from our Heavenly Father and distract me from truth and embracing in my life. Adultery looking at woman with lustful eyes when I shouldn't. Love of sin chasing after temporary false joy or pleasures that I try to fill the hole in my Heart. Unforgiveness and Resentment from my past abusive physical from my Father and others done Mentally through their hurtful words. Blindness from all things that I want removed, Purged with our Heavenly Fathers Holy Fire upon my Heart, Soul, Mind, Spirit, Spirit, and Tung. Please Pray for me if anybody reads this, he's helped me change this far I want full change that they not see me but truly Christ Completely in every way. Thank you for this wonderful video and truth that his Love, I'm dearly grateful so much. If anyone here would pray these things and anything that comes to heart he puts upon you that would be amazing if you'd pray it for me please may he bless you all and Shalom Shalom. Heavenly Father I leave everything all that I typed in your hands and feet changed this Heart dearly in True Repentance please. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.
I want my repentance to be real! Change me oh God!
Newburgh, New York USA
Wasilla Alaska 🙌
This preacher did not quit cigars … FYI
Lord, I pray for forgiveness and freedom from sexual immorality, thoughts and anything impure. Pray for a changed new life. In Jesus name!
Shirley here from Migori, Kenya. I pray for true repentance and commitment to forsake the sin I run back to every time, and run back to Christ Jesus.
Please help me Lord Jesus. I can't do this without you.
Yes that's me
Our pastor spoke on this subject this morning. I saw this video after coming home. Wow, God has my attention. My compromise …..I can't allow God to occupy second place for any reason.
I am in Nanyuki ,Kenya
TOXCIN still exists, same is used to unleash terror and cruelty !!
Hesperia, CA…
Lord,Abba, Father, have mercy on us sinners. Hear our cries and thirst for godly repentance that reflects the same type of brokenness of our sins like in psalm 51. Lord, draws to your Son as it is written in John 6:44. Lord, it is also written that you will not turn away one person who comes to you in repentance in faith. Have mercy on us. For those Lord, who are listening, including myself, cut us to the quick, remove our heart of stone and give us a heart of flesh. Have mercy on us sinners.
Brothers and sisters be encouraged by these words and if you find yourself being this person cry out to Yahweh until a miracle is done.
I love Psalm 19. I want to encourage everybody reading this to read that song today in the LSP. It’s more of a literal translation. At the end when you hear, presumptuous sins, that means willful sins. Listen to it over and over.
Grayson peace
Pretoria, South Africa
🙏Father in Heaven I want real repentance real change in Jesus name I pray ❤
Thank you Jesus 🙌
I am from South Africa, Johannesburg
Harare, Zimbabwe. Lord I am a porn and masturbation addict, I have been deceiving myself and killing the spirit. Please forgive me
Flagstaff, Arizona
USA
I'm watching from Nigeria ❤
Lagos, Nigeria
Phoenix AZ
The mighty HOLY SPIRIT is really ministering, from Kenya,I choose to begin a new with The LORD
I have decided to follow Jesus.