I believe the first date a man should pay and then if you go out all he time like everyday it should be somewhat 50/50 60/40 atleast because in today’s society both people work. This old Christian mindset of the woman stays at home isn’t really available to most families these days.
If a man wont let you pay your share, Run. He’s looking for control, a dumb SAHM , you’ll have to forget your high powered high earning job because he’s intimidated, he won’t cool. shop , iron, clean ect so really he can’t add anything because you don’t want or need his money
Yes! I always hated when guys were ambiguous. This is why some guys apparently thought we were dating when we weren't. Like I thought we were just hanging out? I don't wanna date you? Lol And it's super romantic for a guy to be clear with his intentions. My husband was, and my heart. 🫶
That last part isn’t true. I always say I want to pay so the guy doesn’t feel like I’m forcing him. I’ll offer to pay for the whole thing because sometimes I feel bad for men for having to pay. Has nothing to do with equality. It’s nice to pay for men sometimes.. and that doesn’t mean I don’t know Jesus. Jesus is my Savior and King
Some women may associate him paying with doing her a favor, creating a sense of informally owing him something. Whether you 'feel' that way or not, it's a reasonable position. When the Scriptures were written, I think it was mainly a primitive agrarian society with high child and infant mortality requiring high fertility rates to maintain & grow people groups, women were at a severe disadvantage in the labor market (look at what Ruth did to support herself and Naomi) and absent contraception subject to multiple random intermittent pregnancies. Scripture stands today, of course, but perhaps we should not play the Pharisee and add demands on top of it? Just a thought.
I didn’t know it was located in Dallas I’ll have to check out the church sometimes I go to north baptis church on 820 Las Vegas trail lake worth bridge
I need clarification on something. I am a woman btw. Ive seen the phrase many times "Dont give your boyfriend husband benefits. Dont give your girlfriend wife benefits" This is usuallt talking about sex but ot course applies to other benefits as well. If we are only dating then obviously im not giving him sex, im not a SAHM, we're not living together or sharing finances, etc AND i wont help pay for dates then what am I supposed to be doing for him?? He's expected to protect me and provide for me whether we're just dating or married but Im not supposed to do those things until marriage. My point is i dont have a problem with what the Bible says about marriage I just think i can at least help pay for things while we're dating.
My husband always paid when we went out during our courtship. Now that were married, he still uses his card to pay, even though we have a joint bank account 😅 and I so appreciate it ❤️
It’s rough when the girl makes more than the guy though. Not having a ton of spending cash does not indicate a lack of faith or a “bad” man.
My response if he's trying to pay: "I can pay for my stuff if you want" and if he insists "Are you sure?" And if he says yes "Ok.." "Can I pay for some dessert after or something?" If he says that he'll pay for that too I would get supper uncomfortable because I would assume that they want something of some sort in return and I don't want to push those boundaries for any man till my marriage day. What does that say about me in this case? 😅
One of m6 best frien a met a man online. First date was a bit awkward and he didn't pay. He was not in great financial situation. They now are married ten years and have 5 kids. One of the best husbands and dadsI know. So glad she didn't run away… and had the sense to see him as an individual, not a stereotype. I don't think thks tyle.of advice is really bery helpful. Dating is pretty hard these days, and young people need to see what is pn the onside of a person, not.what is on the outside. Yes, nice if guys pay, but if they don't, it is not a moral failure or a red flag. Meet a guy, get to know him, and be discerning as to whether or not he will be a good husband. If people aren't willling to overlook a few things, marrigae doesn't work too well. I would not encourage my childrent o judge someone over whether or not they paid thr first date.
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I believe the first date a man should pay and then if you go out all he time like everyday it should be somewhat 50/50 60/40 atleast because in today’s society both people work. This old Christian mindset of the woman stays at home isn’t really available to most families these days.
I was with you up to the payment part
Not because of some “equality” thing or what not but I don’t get what the issue is if yall do go half on the date.
If a man wont let you pay your share, Run. He’s looking for control, a dumb SAHM , you’ll have to forget your high powered high earning job because he’s intimidated, he won’t cool. shop , iron, clean ect so really he can’t add anything because you don’t want or need his money
Good advice!
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And if she expects you to take her to the Capital Grill AND a movie, AND flowers, AND gift on the first date… RUN FOREST, RUN
Yes! I always hated when guys were ambiguous. This is why some guys apparently thought we were dating when we weren't. Like I thought we were just hanging out? I don't wanna date you? Lol And it's super romantic for a guy to be clear with his intentions. My husband was, and my heart. 🫶
Gotta love how the church REFUSES to acknowledge the poison of feminism to appease women.
Thank you sir!!
Ugh been paying half since I met him. 6 years together and finally he’s paying a little more than half.
Only reason I don't want him to pay is cus I love him and don't want him spending money on me he shows me he loves me that's all I need ❤
Amen!!
That last part isn’t true. I always say I want to pay so the guy doesn’t feel like I’m forcing him. I’ll offer to pay for the whole thing because sometimes I feel bad for men for having to pay. Has nothing to do with equality. It’s nice to pay for men sometimes.. and that doesn’t mean I don’t know Jesus. Jesus is my Savior and King
Absolutely 💯 AMEN
Some women may associate him paying with doing her a favor, creating a sense of informally owing him something. Whether you 'feel' that way or not, it's a reasonable position. When the Scriptures were written, I think it was mainly a primitive agrarian society with high child and infant mortality requiring high fertility rates to maintain & grow people groups, women were at a severe disadvantage in the labor market (look at what Ruth did to support herself and Naomi) and absent contraception subject to multiple random intermittent pregnancies. Scripture stands today, of course, but perhaps we should not play the Pharisee and add demands on top of it? Just a thought.
I don’t have any issues with the take. But where in scripture does it say that men should always pay for dates?
With one guy, I paid for everything, all the time. Yeah…
I didn’t know it was located in Dallas I’ll have to check out the church sometimes I go to north baptis church on 820 Las Vegas trail lake worth bridge
I need clarification on something. I am a woman btw.
Ive seen the phrase many times "Dont give your boyfriend husband benefits. Dont give your girlfriend wife benefits" This is usuallt talking about sex but ot course applies to other benefits as well.
If we are only dating then obviously im not giving him sex, im not a SAHM, we're not living together or sharing finances, etc AND i wont help pay for dates then what am I supposed to be doing for him?? He's expected to protect me and provide for me whether we're just dating or married but Im not supposed to do those things until marriage.
My point is i dont have a problem with what the Bible says about marriage I just think i can at least help pay for things while we're dating.
Amen ❤
He’s calling out the bachelors lack of fashion for sure and that’s a good joke
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Would hope he also gave advice for the ladies too, goes both ways
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My husband always paid when we went out during our courtship. Now that were married, he still uses his card to pay, even though we have a joint bank account 😅 and I so appreciate it ❤️
It’s rough when the girl makes more than the guy though. Not having a ton of spending cash does not indicate a lack of faith or a “bad” man.
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My response if he's trying to pay: "I can pay for my stuff if you want" and if he insists "Are you sure?" And if he says yes "Ok.." "Can I pay for some dessert after or something?" If he says that he'll pay for that too I would get supper uncomfortable because I would assume that they want something of some sort in return and I don't want to push those boundaries for any man till my marriage day. What does that say about me in this case? 😅
I'm trying to remember what it's like to actually be pursued by a man. I can't remember… they stopped doing that around 2015 or so.
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One of m6 best frien a met a man online. First date was a bit awkward and he didn't pay. He was not in great financial situation. They now are married ten years and have 5 kids. One of the best husbands and dadsI know. So glad she didn't run away… and had the sense to see him as an individual, not a stereotype. I don't think thks tyle.of advice is really bery helpful. Dating is pretty hard these days, and young people need to see what is pn the onside of a person, not.what is on the outside. Yes, nice if guys pay, but if they don't, it is not a moral failure or a red flag. Meet a guy, get to know him, and be discerning as to whether or not he will be a good husband. If people aren't willling to overlook a few things, marrigae doesn't work too well. I would not encourage my childrent o judge someone over whether or not they paid thr first date.
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(Unless you are short and chubby in which case she'll say no and then put you on blast in the girls chat)
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Amen! This is gold! Thank you for speaking wisdom about this.