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  1. Indeed it is important for each one in the couple to know their strenghts and weaknesses.
    Some men enjoy cooking, others don't… Some are really comfortable around babies, others are not…
    The same for women.
    Just focus on God to help you know yourself and lead you to your suitable partner.

  2. Opposites don't attract. Iron sharpens iron.

    I have never seen a smart person being attracted to an unintelligent person because of the unintelligence.

    I have never seen a pretty person attracted to a not pretty person because of the lack of beauty.

    A kind person is not attracted to a wicked person (might be attracted to the drama and adrenaline boosting of wickedness, but not to the wickedness itself).

    People need to be smart enough, pretty enough, kind enough, godly enough for each other to be able to be together.

    That's why the bible says that the wicked woman is for the wicked man and the godly woman is for the godly man (Ecclesiasticus 26:23).

    Now between 2 godly people in a marriage who are compatible for each other, there are areas where one is godlier than the other and they complement each other to both become godlier.

    Perhaps the man is wiser and the woman is humbler and they both learn from each other to become both godlier versions of themselves.

    The real mystery of attraction is that:

    People are not attracted based on weaknesses, but based on strengths. And their strengths have to complement each other strengths in light of their weaknesses/needs.

    A man who is weak in an area will be attracted to a woman who is strong in that area. And for the woman to be attracted to him, he has to be strong enough in an area that the woman is weak.

    The woman is never going to be attracted to that man just because he is weak and opposite of her in her area of strength. Or just because he is similar to her in her areas of weaknesses.

    Strengths attract people; weaknesses repel people.

    People who are attracted to us are people who are more attracted to our strengths than they are repelled by our weaknesses.

    Complementation really happens in the realm of strengths. Weaknesses reveal our duties towards our partners.

    Don't marry your opposite or your similar; marry those who can complement your strengths and you can complement theirs in light of your weaknesses.

    That is, both of your sets of strengths can address and resolve both of your sets of weaknesses.

  3. I was hearing this video while driving today and shedding tears because I have been contemplating divorce for about 3 years now and I am about to make up my mind to do it in a few weeks. I married a woman who is a man in skirts and does not know her role and thinks marriage must be a full scholarship to her. No Nigerian pastor has preached marriage like Pastor Kingsley in my entire life. May God bless you for saving marriages to those who can listen and apply it.

  4. Pastor Kingsley I want to say that I like how politely you speak to the DJ when requesting scriptures on the screen. I've watched you on different videos and you are always nice and say thank you when asking DJ to display scriptures for you.
    It's one of the many things that I like about you.πŸ‘

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