It’s true. I have three mentors, one was also a Marine and runs hedge funds, one is a president at a medium sized company, and the last is a director at my company.
Each gives me different advice that the other may not have mentioned and I reciprocate often. It’s mutual. I find myself, although still very young, taking on mentees. Why? Because impressive individuals are somewhat rare these days and you gravitate towards them. My mentees impress the shit out of me. Often I feel they’ll be my boss eventually and I welcome it!
That all said, and its true….just remember that a mentor unlike a parent does NOT have to care about your feelings. They might, or they might know that something they tell you may be hurtful, because you NEED to hear it. A good mentor will not coddle you, they will be honest. Sometimes, brutally so.
I know it's completely beside the point, but when I was about 9 or 10 I moved house and had to change schools. Apparently we had already learned about friendship at my old school or something, because one of the kids at my new schools kept wanting to play with me at recess and when she asked me after about a week if I wanted to be her friend I was very confused. She got worried that meant I didn't want to be her friend, so I told her she just didn't need to ask because I was already playing with her so we were already friends. We started making friendship bracelets after that.
So sometimes kids really do walk up to someone and ask to be friends 😊
As expected.. again nice deep and honest observation.. love from India.. big fan of you… Love ❤️ you Simon I mean really I feel so connected to your thought process. On stage you just admitted that you are not normal very proudly this really help me because I am also like you who thinks differently, introvert, but loves to public speaking, loves to share knowledge and experience … So on so on so on…
Well… no. Mentorship is not really friendship as the relationship is skewed one way. The mentor has wisdom that the younger one doesn't. Yes, it's true that a good teacher can learn from his student, but the Mentor/Mentored relationship is not two-way. Your mentor was probably speaking metaphorically. Maybe, you had already been through the mentoring stage sufficiently in his eyes by the time this incident happened that he was really your friend, and not a mentor. A good explanation of mentoring might be found in Robert Bly's book: 'Iron John'. To be a true and successful mentor, you need to have no interest in the success or failure of your protégé; this is n important difference between the roles of mentor and father.
I have had that revelation lately. Now that I have experienced working for a great leader instead of a manager, I no longer care about really anything else but wanting to work for/with great leaders, people.
Although this is what I will what I will say is irrelevant, it is interesting that you cannot add someone directly. Will you be my friend or something involves it’s somethin.
I'm looking for information about how the Church could and should prepare young men to make/maintain adult life relationships and marry (if they want to marry). There are so many boys without fathers in one way or another, and they seem to be fed to the world like disposable heroes. And it appears our culture can have men around, but these important issues are being neglected even with them present in communities.
30 years ago I was a born-again Christian young man with no relationship mentoring. I didn't ask questions, and I guess my parents assumed I had it figured out, but I did not. And no one was around to ask in person because I was off in a fresh military career, many miles away. All of my work people were not living for God, and just winging life as well. I was in church and Bible groups but their focus was never relationship focused. I got married too soon/too carelessly and it crashed, and I got burned badly. I picked a woman poorly and it was an unnecessary disaster. It was all preventable, yet there were no precautions being taught to me as an active man in the Church. I felt like I was sucker-punched.
Now, as a father of two relatively young sons I am searching how to teach them to seek and receive mentorship, and I want to know how to pass guidance to other young men as well. There is not a lot of focused Christian material on this, and I don't find a lot of discussion or discipleship help on it whatsoever. Yet, our "churched" marriages are falling apart as much, or more, as the world's lost folks. Why is this so difficult to teach and help young churched believers with? Where are the focused Christian efforts at raising and guiding good young men and women to date/marry wisely? It sure seems like this is a super-weak link in the Church. What do you think? Is it?
It seems like organizational suicide to raise believers with little to no relationship guidance from a very early age and expect them to make a good Bride to Christ, doesn't it? They are the future of the Church. They should be better prepared, else they are very likely to crash/burn their families and run from God in the process. I've seen this happen to many friends.
If you know of any good teaching portions please share with me.
LORD, please send me to the existing guidance and experts if I'm overlooking them.
Amazing perspective.
It’s true. I have three mentors, one was also a Marine and runs hedge funds, one is a president at a medium sized company, and the last is a director at my company.
Each gives me different advice that the other may not have mentioned and I reciprocate often. It’s mutual. I find myself, although still very young, taking on mentees. Why? Because impressive individuals are somewhat rare these days and you gravitate towards them. My mentees impress the shit out of me. Often I feel they’ll be my boss eventually and I welcome it!
Lol 😂 my three year old daughter asks everyone if they can be her friend.
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That all said, and its true….just remember that a mentor unlike a parent does NOT have to care about your feelings. They might, or they might know that something they tell you may be hurtful, because you NEED to hear it. A good mentor will not coddle you, they will be honest. Sometimes, brutally so.
What happens if you can’t find your mentor?
Where could I find a community of smart, amazing people when I'm a 19-year-old dropout?
I know it's completely beside the point, but when I was about 9 or 10 I moved house and had to change schools. Apparently we had already learned about friendship at my old school or something, because one of the kids at my new schools kept wanting to play with me at recess and when she asked me after about a week if I wanted to be her friend I was very confused. She got worried that meant I didn't want to be her friend, so I told her she just didn't need to ask because I was already playing with her so we were already friends. We started making friendship bracelets after that.
So sometimes kids really do walk up to someone and ask to be friends 😊
As expected.. again nice deep and honest observation.. love from India.. big fan of you… Love ❤️ you Simon I mean really I feel so connected to your thought process. On stage you just admitted that you are not normal very proudly this really help me because I am also like you who thinks differently, introvert, but loves to public speaking, loves to share knowledge and experience … So on so on so on…
Its not somehting that can be forced
needs to be natural
Is a mentor almost like a type of rival?
Great location! I dig the ambiance.
Iron sharpens iron.
I wanna see Simon Sinek & Ryan Holiday do an interview like this, 2hrs!
Short and sweet video to the point on mentorship – thank you Simon!
This is a great descriptor of what it means to be a mentor.
I started because "i want to be proud on myself by doing something i love and is worth doing it"
Is This Is My Why?
"Mentor is a friend" just like any other relationship it grows.
Thumbnail looks like he's sitting with Walter White 😂
That's such a good point.
Mentor to Mentor Relationship
This is PURE TRUTH❤
Well… no. Mentorship is not really friendship as the relationship is skewed one way. The mentor has wisdom that the younger one doesn't. Yes, it's true that a good teacher can learn from his student, but the Mentor/Mentored relationship is not two-way. Your mentor was probably speaking metaphorically. Maybe, you had already been through the mentoring stage sufficiently in his eyes by the time this incident happened that he was really your friend, and not a mentor. A good explanation of mentoring might be found in Robert Bly's book: 'Iron John'. To be a true and successful mentor, you need to have no interest in the success or failure of your protégé; this is n important difference between the roles of mentor and father.
Thank you, Simon!
I like this sentence, "Be there for each other"
Beautiful love u.
😯 I never considered my mentor was getting something from me as well…
I am a Haiku (3 lined Japanese styled poem of 17 syllables) poet and coincidentally this is what I wrote a short while before watching this video
Student journeys on
Becomes master who teaches
Learnings from students
I have spent 46 mentoring men and learn a lot from them. I think they teach me more than I teach them.
Love this concept, so true!
I am looking for love . That’s great line I wish I could have use same lines in my interviews
Just discover my only mentor is a capitalist. How devastating.
Cool! Thanks for this video! You can also check my channel to see my latest video!
Awesome lesson.
Heisenberg
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I have had that revelation lately. Now that I have experienced working for a great leader instead of a manager, I no longer care about really anything else but wanting to work for/with great leaders, people.
Want a mentor !
Needed this !
Good
Although this is what I will what I will say is irrelevant, it is interesting that you cannot add someone directly. Will you be my friend or something involves it’s somethin.
I hope you and yours are awesome in God!
I'm looking for information about how the Church could and should prepare young men to make/maintain adult life relationships and marry (if they want to marry). There are so many boys without fathers in one way or another, and they seem to be fed to the world like disposable heroes. And it appears our culture can have men around, but these important issues are being neglected even with them present in communities.
30 years ago I was a born-again Christian young man with no relationship mentoring. I didn't ask questions, and I guess my parents assumed I had it figured out, but I did not. And no one was around to ask in person because I was off in a fresh military career, many miles away. All of my work people were not living for God, and just winging life as well. I was in church and Bible groups but their focus was never relationship focused. I got married too soon/too carelessly and it crashed, and I got burned badly. I picked a woman poorly and it was an unnecessary disaster. It was all preventable, yet there were no precautions being taught to me as an active man in the Church. I felt like I was sucker-punched.
Now, as a father of two relatively young sons I am searching how to teach them to seek and receive mentorship, and I want to know how to pass guidance to other young men as well. There is not a lot of focused Christian material on this, and I don't find a lot of discussion or discipleship help on it whatsoever. Yet, our "churched" marriages are falling apart as much, or more, as the world's lost folks. Why is this so difficult to teach and help young churched believers with? Where are the focused Christian efforts at raising and guiding good young men and women to date/marry wisely? It sure seems like this is a super-weak link in the Church. What do you think? Is it?
It seems like organizational suicide to raise believers with little to no relationship guidance from a very early age and expect them to make a good Bride to Christ, doesn't it? They are the future of the Church. They should be better prepared, else they are very likely to crash/burn their families and run from God in the process. I've seen this happen to many friends.
If you know of any good teaching portions please share with me.
LORD, please send me to the existing guidance and experts if I'm overlooking them.
Thanksgiving and peace to you!
This is robust content. A related book I read shifted my entire paradigm. "A Life Unplugged: Reclaiming Reality in a Digital Age" by Theodore Blaze
Great 👍
Relation is crucial for authentic mentorhip experiences.
I love that, I can relate to what he’s talk about
Finding a mentor is the hardest.