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BREENY!!!!!! you hit the nail on the head with this video, I was saying yesssss the entire video. Toxic mothers is something that a lot of people don't talk about but its so prominent in our community
Wooo…. This is literally my mother. She told me the other day that “She wished she ab0rted me like my blood father wanted her to”. I’m like wow. And then didn’t want to believe what she said to me the day after but finally acknowledged it after I read it back to her in the texts and she followed it up by saying “Should have, would have, could have. But I didn’t”. I just can’t believe a parent could EVER say something like that to their child. It’s beyond sad.
The best video on this topic so far, I have to say! It's so good to hear all this, although I should figured out myself. It's such a big burden to carry around for years and years … but reading comments I can see I am not alone in this mess. I feel sorry for everyone who has to deal with this, I think toxic mothers are the worst, because it's harder to leave them. It's like an eternal curse!
my daughters was watching this video cause she is on punish she is 13 she is been lying to mee about boyfriends, make up, what she is no allowed and I know I have my mistakes like human nature I try to be better i am a single mom taking care the best i can etc etc
I really love ur video,u just highlighted my mum in 1 video. My decision making has been wack cause i hardly made one for myself she controlled me like remote,never gave me space to breathe
my mom and dad are always fighting so my mother is always letting her rage and stress out on me and when i try to stand up for her when dad and mom are fighting she gets mad at me and its so sad and i think i got deppresion bc of my parents
The whole boundary thing is her too a T like she just bursts in and starts demanding crap, screaming at me , verbally abusing me ive even gone as far as to nearly having to buy a lock for my dooor
Very well articulated! I too am a victim of a narcissistic mother and I am 31 – I started therapy earlier this year and it has really been beneficial to my healing. Specifically what you said about healing your younger self and setting boundaries in the present is exactly what I did. I have blocked my mother and my father (he was there, aware and still let it happen) and no longer have anxiety from if I will get a call/text from them to ruin my week. They live in NC and I moved to NY in 2014 and didn't even tell my mom until the week before! I don't feel guilty (anymore) nor do I feel guilty about not having them at my future wedding or being around my future children. I set boundaries and it didn't work. I wrote a 6 page letter and mailed it to her and got false tears and the same behavior as always. I had to do this for me and I am now happy. I still have obstacles in life as we all do but now I am able to handle them with the skills and strength I have built up over the years. You don't have to keep your parents in your life if they continue to hurt you – that isn't love and you aren't obligated to continue to take unnecessary hits for the rest of your life xX
My issue is I pay the bills. I took my mother in because she broke off with her partner and had nowhere else to go. I thought she could help me raise my child as well, but instead she is in my home rent free, very selective of the chores she wants to do, and just commands me on how to raise my own child. She also keeps nagging me when it's time to sleep and when I'm staying up late. I told her to backoff many times but she keeps on doing it. I told her that I want her to move out, which she agrees to but never really does. I don't know what to do.
So I found your video because I'm struggling. My kid wants to do extracurricular activities however I am currently already stretched as thin as I mentally can handle it. I drop off everybody in my household off including my husband every morning. Run errands clean house then pick them back up at different times ranging from 2:00 in the afternoon to 7:00 at night. And I feel horrible that I'm not letting my kid engage in after school programs. But on the flip side I feel I'm stretched so thin as it is. And to top it off I am dealing with a electrical injury to my upper right side of my body. Does that make me toxic?
The beginning part brings up a question o always struggle with. What do you do when your toxic family members are abusive to their kids who you care about.
I realized me feeling worthless and wanting to prove myself comes from my mother actually always telling me just that in one way or another. I dont have nobody i live with her i wish she was just normal but one day she is supportive the other one she is hateful and discarding. She never takes accountability she never does anything wrong in her eyes, will never admit anything. Doesnt matter what i do with my life its never good enough for her
My dear everything you said in this video is accurate this is exactly my mother. Everything that you say. May mother want to live my life for me and because i dn't listen she put me out with my child but god not sleeping and i must get back on my feet 1 day
As a mother of 3 boys man this speaks volumes good thing i aint dead I can still and will change ty this was hard for my to watch I don't know coming from what I know. My mother is a strong independent woman who could do no wrong in my eyes so…. I didn't know.
I went to church with a friend years ago and the guest speaker said to me god always has your back even when others let you down. I listened it did make me feel better at the time(having had toxic parents) anyway, IJS thank you for that reminder. I'm slowly learning to let go. Reparenting is definitely something I have to learn.
I have tried time and time again to talk to my mother about this, but she keeps fucking projecting and blaming it all on ME. I’m SO tired of her bullshit
BREENY!!!!!! you hit the nail on the head with this video, I was saying yesssss the entire video. Toxic mothers is something that a lot of people don't talk about but its so prominent in our community
Toxic mother is a toxic wife as well
Wooo…. This is literally my mother. She told me the other day that “She wished she ab0rted me like my blood father wanted her to”. I’m like wow. And then didn’t want to believe what she said to me the day after but finally acknowledged it after I read it back to her in the texts and she followed it up by saying “Should have, would have, could have. But I didn’t”. I just can’t believe a parent could EVER say something like that to their child. It’s beyond sad.
I can't deal with my mother😭
My mom tried to strangle me and still blames blacking out, narcissistic parents are the worst
The best video on this topic so far, I have to say! It's so good to hear all this, although I should figured out myself. It's such a big burden to carry around for years and years … but reading comments I can see I am not alone in this mess. I feel sorry for everyone who has to deal with this, I think toxic mothers are the worst, because it's harder to leave them. It's like an eternal curse!
Does this woman is a mother? I think she can speak when she has her own children. Now days everyone has an opinion about everything.
Hmmm. What about the Mom who got you a car when you couldn't because of credit and she doesn't have a car herself.
Wowwww
my daughters was watching this video cause she is on punish she is 13 she is been lying to mee about boyfriends, make up, what she is no allowed and I know I have my mistakes like human nature I try to be better i am a single mom taking care the best i can etc etc
You have to hope they get old Then you dump their ass in a Nursing Home and never visit again lol
my mom said she regrets giving birth to me. I was 17.
I really love ur video,u just highlighted my mum in 1 video. My decision making has been wack cause i hardly made one for myself she controlled me like remote,never gave me space to breathe
Yes
Truth, then these mothers continue these NARCISSIST behavior as mother-In-Laws … please do a video about the NARCISSIST Mother-In-Law!!!
im 12 and i started crying as soon i searched "why are my parents never proud of me"
i have never heard my mom said i love you to me its kinds sad
my mom and dad are always fighting so my mother is always letting her rage and stress out on me and when i try to stand up for her when dad and mom are fighting she gets mad at me and its so sad and i think i got deppresion bc of my parents
As a mom this has teach to appreciate and be there for my son every time ❤
The whole boundary thing is her too a T like she just bursts in and starts demanding crap, screaming at me , verbally abusing me ive even gone as far as to nearly having to buy a lock for my dooor
You are perfetta, the way you explain
You just described my mother to a t 😢
Very well articulated! I too am a victim of a narcissistic mother and I am 31 – I started therapy earlier this year and it has really been beneficial to my healing. Specifically what you said about healing your younger self and setting boundaries in the present is exactly what I did. I have blocked my mother and my father (he was there, aware and still let it happen) and no longer have anxiety from if I will get a call/text from them to ruin my week. They live in NC and I moved to NY in 2014 and didn't even tell my mom until the week before! I don't feel guilty (anymore) nor do I feel guilty about not having them at my future wedding or being around my future children. I set boundaries and it didn't work. I wrote a 6 page letter and mailed it to her and got false tears and the same behavior as always. I had to do this for me and I am now happy. I still have obstacles in life as we all do but now I am able to handle them with the skills and strength I have built up over the years. You don't have to keep your parents in your life if they continue to hurt you – that isn't love and you aren't obligated to continue to take unnecessary hits for the rest of your life xX
My issue is I pay the bills. I took my mother in because she broke off with her partner and had nowhere else to go. I thought she could help me raise my child as well, but instead she is in my home rent free, very selective of the chores she wants to do, and just commands me on how to raise my own child. She also keeps nagging me when it's time to sleep and when I'm staying up late. I told her to backoff many times but she keeps on doing it. I told her that I want her to move out, which she agrees to but never really does. I don't know what to do.
Wow
I am 15 my morher beats me , even when i turned off the fan coz i feel cols she beats me like a animal
So I found your video because I'm struggling. My kid wants to do extracurricular activities however I am currently already stretched as thin as I mentally can handle it. I drop off everybody in my household off including my husband every morning. Run errands clean house then pick them back up at different times ranging from 2:00 in the afternoon to 7:00 at night. And I feel horrible that I'm not letting my kid engage in after school programs. But on the flip side I feel I'm stretched so thin as it is. And to top it off I am dealing with a electrical injury to my upper right side of my body. Does that make me toxic?
The beginning part brings up a question o always struggle with. What do you do when your toxic family members are abusive to their kids who you care about.
My mom is broken calculator that is what she is. She made the family broke and still relying on 1+1=4. She can go to hell.
Actually my mother doesn't pay for my bills I have beg her to pay some of them
I realized me feeling worthless and wanting to prove myself comes from my mother actually always telling me just that in one way or another. I dont have nobody i live with her i wish she was just normal but one day she is supportive the other one she is hateful and discarding. She never takes accountability she never does anything wrong in her eyes, will never admit anything.
Doesnt matter what i do with my life its never good enough for her
thank you so much!!!! im at my worst rn and what u said i what i needed to hear thank u sm
My dear everything you said in this video is accurate this is exactly my mother. Everything that you say. May mother want to live my life for me and because i dn't listen she put me out with my child but god not sleeping and i must get back on my feet 1 day
My mom is all of these to me
As a mother of 3 boys man this speaks volumes good thing i aint dead I can still and will change ty this was hard for my to watch I don't know coming from what I know. My mother is a strong independent woman who could do no wrong in my eyes so….
I didn't know.
I went to church with a friend years ago and the guest speaker said to me god always has your back even when others let you down. I listened it did make me feel better at the time(having had toxic parents) anyway, IJS thank you for that reminder. I'm slowly learning to let go. Reparenting is definitely something I have to learn.
I have tried time and time again to talk to my mother about this, but she keeps fucking projecting and blaming it all on ME. I’m SO tired of her bullshit
My mom made me eat a soap when i was 4 , and she grabs a heavy thing and throw it to me and now she wants to abandon me
Both my parents are narcissistic 😀
Some children ARE very ungrateful
Thank you so much for making this video
I have a toxic narcissistic mother who refuses to look at her own behaviour.
The only person she actually care is about herself, sex, and money, very self centred.
Me and her are not the same. Mum was never a good role for me to being with.
I am my own role model and will be for my future children. I do not want my future children growing up having a toxic narcissistic mum like how I did.
Both of my parents have issues and bad mind and jealous people I do not needs none of that in my life.
Sorry but you know where the exit door 🚪 is