When you said that dating for 3 to 5 years before marriage is an issue, high immediately thought that you guys were really young. People change overtime, I have changed so drastically from the person I was when I was younger through God. I don’t understand why it would be an issue to wait to see if that is the right person, to see what they truly are like, living with them day in and day out, while also Building your relationship in Christ.
I will tell you, NEVER date a secular. There is no morality within those people and they want sex immediately. Flee and leave them behind. I left my ex-girlfriend that wanted to manipulate me to her will.
Love bombing . Showering you with gifts and praise and not stopping. If they have zero friends. If they talk bad about the opposite sex non stop. Everyone is at fault for everything. They critizise you and put you down. If they hate animals!
8:54 correct!!! One of the main reasons my last relationship ended because his “bf”, although she was married, kept getting in the way. She was so bad even my friends would ask what her problem was.
The first girl was a Christian but i saw those red flags in her which is why i ended up leaving the relationship because she assaulted me once and twice when i proposed to my wife outside enjoying the day but my fiance decked her back so both of our noses was bleeding.
This is good stuff because I had often thought that I was doing the red flags and that the reason the ladies that I were dating ended it. I now know they were commiting the red flags.
It's so hard. I'm getting a permanent headache with it all. I never married before I was saved a son or a multi millionaire (no gold diggers) to sleeping and begging on the streets. Been saved now for 24 years and single in all this time to. Admittedly, I'm not too good at seeing the signs that a lady likes me (until she moves on), but Christians do say that I am the model Christian. I've been to bible college. I was on Christian radio and had my testimony written in a newspaper. And still single.
My Christian red flag – born again Christians. Speaking as a man, if a girl is on a newfound spiritual journey, that is code for, she has a past she is not proud of – I.e., partied a lot (alcohol and/or drugs) and probably promiscuity. No amount of faith will tame a woman who has lived that lifestyle. Men care about a woman’s past. Simple as that.
3/3 “religious” men I dated were horrible. 2/3 were professors of religion and both were married and told me they were single. one was a reverend and a clinically diagnosed malignant narcissist. I avoid religious men when dating. If you tell me you’re religious, I won’t date you because you’re likely a demon hiding in sheep’s clothing.
Dating is telling OUR HEAVENLY FATHER that you know better than HIM. Isaiah 34:16 proves HE HAS A CHOSEN MATE BUT WE MUST ASK HIM FOR THAT ONE and then BELIEVE HIM WHEN THAT ONE IS SENT TO YOU thereafter!
Biblical marriage is sex. Stop being indoctrinated by the false prophets and false teachers making merchandise of you 2 Peter 2:1-3. Oklahoma has only been a state since 1907 , think people. The certificate of divorce Moses approved, is so someone wouldn't be stoned to death for laying with another. The paper was to protect yourself.
There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids. You just have to marry someone else who doesn't want. Kids. It's hard to make it in this society on one income. SOME PEOPLE CAN NOT HAVE KIDS!!!! THAT IS A STUPID POINT!!! SOME PEOPLE GET MARRIED LATE!!! STUPID THEY ARE YOUNG AND IGNORANT.
I agree with every single things u guys said but a woman can have her dreams even after having kids and husband only men will be Career driven that's not ok if u have a daughter why would u send them to school if u only want them to be a housewife ? woman go to school to learn to get educated and to make a living on their own yes a man is the provider but he can be sick or gone one day the woman need to learn how to take care on their own so woman should be career driven she can be a mom and work if she wants there are many Good woman who has kids and husband and they still believe in Jesus love the Bible but understand that it was written ages ago so we have to modify it a little bit other than that everything u all said i agree !
I do see issue with the friends of the opposite sex. I get the best friend bit to an extent, but I really do not agree with the bit about it being sexual. I think to sexualize friendships like that is an legitimate error. If you are hiding them from your partner or they are not friends then that is an issue, but to say that two non-dating people of the opposite sex cannot hang out is intrinsically sexual I think shows some really deeply rooted issues. Why does "hang out" mean sex? Does friendship no longer exist?
Sometimes when a man waits a bit longer before he pops the question does not have to do with him being unsure about his partner or commitment issues on his part. He may need more time to build financial stability, for example. You can't just marry someone for love alone. As a man, you must provide for your family and how can you do that without money? So, until a man has stability, he may not be ready for marriage.
This one's a tough one. I've been single for 2 years and have been treading lightly on dating. I desire to be a husband, and yet I almost want nothing to do with dating, even in the church. My family has been trying so hard to get me to go back out there and find a wife, but I don't want to become there are still snakes in the church. When I brought up my reasons, my dad called me a, "misogynist," which kinda hurt. I'm glad women like Sadie exist. It's very refreshing knowing that there are still women of God who understand what their role is when it comes to marriage. Most women, (even in the church) don't, and that's why I've stayed away.
In short, I've gone my own way and don't know what to do
I’m a woman of celibacy of almost 22 years waiting, promise to God. I worked two jobs and I own business so I can barely make it to church often but the doesn’t hinder my relationship with God. So keep that mind. Please not everyone in church is saved and not everyone out of church isn’t saved. But you’re young and have a lot to learn about life. I was going often as much possible but thanks sleepy joe the encomy is in the toilet right now. I just want you not to be so quick to judge others because easy and I know I was guilty of it at one time you get this self righteous mindset because your life revolves around church you look down on others for not being there. Like I said I also had to realize and I repented of that mindset as well. Because when Jesus said to the Pharisees they me look good on outward appearance but inside be dead. Because of their self righteous mindset of being holier than thou. I’m not accusing but trying to teach on what you said as a lesson. Lot church folk have this disturbing views and it’s a sin in itself and not honoring God or please by turning other people who want to seek out God but are turned off with judgements by the congregation. Know as church hurt and I don’t want to be the reason why someone doesn’t find salvation with God saying to me during judgment so went to he’ll because how you treated them at church. I’ve witnessed others being mistreated recently at my church she claims to be holier than now and she doesn’t even realize once close friends of hers are no longer going to our church because of her judgment so hasn’t affected me directly but indirectly it hurts me to see others not knowing the love of God because of other fellow Christians.
ive been single for 8 months after an 8 year relationship. and im finding it impossible to find christian woman that dont just say theyre christian. i keep getting the, "im a christian but i dont go to church or own a bible or believe premarital sex or homosexuality is a sin and i believe God is a woman"……."Ma'am, thats not a Christian" haha those are the kinds of people i keep meeting and its frustrating and starting to feel like there just arent many of us left out here. if theres any women in MD that would want to go to church with me, let me know!
Alot of Women Know Her Dating Rules And Try To Follow Them But Males Will Destroy your sense of reality and whats right and true and make you believe being easy going is more important then making sure they are secure and know for sure your future is secure.
I agree with most of the points apart from the friends with the opposite sex. If there is no temptation, no affection nothing, I don't see the issue. If there are feelings, be open, recognise it and then address either move away or chang the situation.
Honestly I don't think feminine, beta males like Sam should be giving out any advice to other men. 100% Sadie will divorce this girly man boy. I'd say around 34. him saying "I knew I'd spend the rest of my life with her" is completely beta thing to say and a sign of desperation with other issues.
I’m religious but the girl I’m trying to dating she very religious and she told me her wedding to be with gospel no earth music and I find hard to accept it.
Why does she keep interrupting him tho?
When you said that dating for 3 to 5 years before marriage is an issue, high immediately thought that you guys were really young. People change overtime, I have changed so drastically from the person I was when I was younger through God. I don’t understand why it would be an issue to wait to see if that is the right person, to see what they truly are like, living with them day in and day out, while also Building your relationship in Christ.
I will tell you, NEVER date a secular. There is no morality within those people and they want sex immediately. Flee and leave them behind. I left my ex-girlfriend that wanted to manipulate me to her will.
Love bombing . Showering you with gifts and praise and not stopping.
If they have zero friends.
If they talk bad about the opposite sex non stop.
Everyone is at fault for everything.
They critizise you and put you down.
If they hate animals!
8:54 correct!!! One of the main reasons my last relationship ended because his “bf”, although she was married, kept getting in the way. She was so bad even my friends would ask what her problem was.
The first girl was a Christian but i saw those red flags in her which is why i ended up leaving the relationship because she assaulted me once and twice when i proposed to my wife outside enjoying the day but my fiance decked her back so both of our noses was bleeding.
Being on your phone is something that really bothers me especially while on a date
This is good stuff because I had often thought that I was doing the red flags and that the reason the ladies that I were dating ended it. I now know they were commiting the red flags.
It's so hard. I'm getting a permanent headache with it all. I never married before I was saved a son or a multi millionaire (no gold diggers) to sleeping and begging on the streets.
Been saved now for 24 years and single in all this time to.
Admittedly, I'm not too good at seeing the signs that a lady likes me (until she moves on), but Christians do say that I am the model Christian.
I've been to bible college. I was on Christian radio and had my testimony written in a newspaper.
And still single.
My Christian red flag – born again Christians. Speaking as a man, if a girl is on a newfound spiritual journey, that is code for, she has a past she is not proud of – I.e., partied a lot (alcohol and/or drugs) and probably promiscuity. No amount of faith will tame a woman who has lived that lifestyle. Men care about a woman’s past. Simple as that.
Some people dont want to marry because God wont help when the lawyers take your house.
No but the MYSTERY IS NOT CUTE ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh…thank you for that.
3/3 “religious” men I dated were horrible. 2/3 were professors of religion and both were married and told me they were single. one was a reverend and a clinically diagnosed malignant narcissist.
I avoid religious men when dating. If you tell me you’re religious, I won’t date you because you’re likely a demon hiding in sheep’s clothing.
Dating is telling OUR HEAVENLY FATHER that you know better than HIM. Isaiah 34:16 proves HE HAS A CHOSEN MATE BUT WE MUST ASK HIM FOR THAT ONE and then BELIEVE HIM WHEN THAT ONE IS SENT TO YOU thereafter!
Don't pray for the right one. Pray to BE the right one
Biblical marriage is sex. Stop being indoctrinated by the false prophets and false teachers making merchandise of you 2 Peter 2:1-3. Oklahoma has only been a state since 1907 , think people. The certificate of divorce Moses approved, is so someone wouldn't be stoned to death for laying with another. The paper was to protect yourself.
Bros, if she asks if you have a big ministry or long guitar neck then you should at least jog away.
MOST MEN WANT To DATE FOR YEARS BEFORE MAKING A COMMITMENT
There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids. You just have to marry someone else who doesn't want. Kids. It's hard to make it in this society on one income. SOME PEOPLE CAN NOT HAVE KIDS!!!! THAT IS A STUPID POINT!!! SOME PEOPLE GET MARRIED LATE!!! STUPID THEY ARE YOUNG AND IGNORANT.
I agree with every single things u guys said but a woman can have her dreams even after having kids and husband only men will be Career driven that's not ok if u have a daughter why would u send them to school if u only want them to be a housewife ? woman go to school to learn to get educated and to make a living on their own yes a man is the provider but he can be sick or gone one day the woman need to learn how to take care on their own so woman should be career driven she can be a mom and work if she wants there are many Good woman who has kids and husband and they still believe in Jesus love the Bible but understand that it was written ages ago so we have to modify it a little bit other than that everything u all said i agree !
My red flag is gamer and following many girls on Instagram and still intact with their ex
I do see issue with the friends of the opposite sex. I get the best friend bit to an extent, but I really do not agree with the bit about it being sexual. I think to sexualize friendships like that is an legitimate error. If you are hiding them from your partner or they are not friends then that is an issue, but to say that two non-dating people of the opposite sex cannot hang out is intrinsically sexual I think shows some really deeply rooted issues. Why does "hang out" mean sex? Does friendship no longer exist?
Sometimes when a man waits a bit longer before he pops the question does not have to do with him being unsure about his partner or commitment issues on his part. He may need more time to build financial stability, for example. You can't just marry someone for love alone. As a man, you must provide for your family and how can you do that without money? So, until a man has stability, he may not be ready for marriage.
This one's a tough one. I've been single for 2 years and have been treading lightly on dating. I desire to be a husband, and yet I almost want nothing to do with dating, even in the church. My family has been trying so hard to get me to go back out there and find a wife, but I don't want to become there are still snakes in the church. When I brought up my reasons, my dad called me a, "misogynist," which kinda hurt. I'm glad women like Sadie exist. It's very refreshing knowing that there are still women of God who understand what their role is when it comes to marriage. Most women, (even in the church) don't, and that's why I've stayed away.
In short, I've gone my own way and don't know what to do
Will it be okay to hug and hold hand while dating?
Here's another red flag: The guy you're dating is Asian!
I’m a woman of celibacy of almost 22 years waiting, promise to God. I worked two jobs and I own business so I can barely make it to church often but the doesn’t hinder my relationship with God. So keep that mind. Please not everyone in church is saved and not everyone out of church isn’t saved. But you’re young and have a lot to learn about life. I was going often as much possible but thanks sleepy joe the encomy is in the toilet right now. I just want you not to be so quick to judge others because easy and I know I was guilty of it at one time you get this self righteous mindset because your life revolves around church you look down on others for not being there. Like I said I also had to realize and I repented of that mindset as well. Because when Jesus said to the Pharisees they me look good on outward appearance but inside be dead. Because of their self righteous mindset of being holier than thou. I’m not accusing but trying to teach on what you said as a lesson. Lot church folk have this disturbing views and it’s a sin in itself and not honoring God or please by turning other people who want to seek out God but are turned off with judgements by the congregation. Know as church hurt and I don’t want to be the reason why someone doesn’t find salvation with God saying to me during judgment so went to he’ll because how you treated them at church. I’ve witnessed others being mistreated recently at my church she claims to be holier than now and she doesn’t even realize once close friends of hers are no longer going to our church because of her judgment so hasn’t affected me directly but indirectly it hurts me to see others not knowing the love of God because of other fellow Christians.
ive been single for 8 months after an 8 year relationship. and im finding it impossible to find christian woman that dont just say theyre christian. i keep getting the, "im a christian but i dont go to church or own a bible or believe premarital sex or homosexuality is a sin and i believe God is a woman"……."Ma'am, thats not a Christian" haha those are the kinds of people i keep meeting and its frustrating and starting to feel like there just arent many of us left out here. if theres any women in MD that would want to go to church with me, let me know!
Hilarious 😂
If your faith is so strong, why are you afraid to date someone for who they are? 😂😂😂
Gosh, sorry, but point number 1 is such bad advice. A guy or girl not attending a church service should never be a factor in Christian dating. Ever!
it took me one convo to know she is going to be my wife but let's see what God says about it
Alot of Women Know Her Dating Rules And Try To Follow Them But Males Will Destroy your sense of reality and whats right and true and make you believe being easy going is more important then making sure they are secure and know for sure your future is secure.
I agree with most of the points apart from the friends with the opposite sex. If there is no temptation, no affection nothing, I don't see the issue. If there are feelings, be open, recognise it and then address either move away or chang the situation.
Can you guys pray for me? I feel dead inside when i think about women. Im still atrracted but i dont feel pleasant.
Honestly I don't think feminine, beta males like Sam should be giving out any advice to other men. 100% Sadie will divorce this girly man boy. I'd say around 34.
him saying "I knew I'd spend the rest of my life with her" is completely beta thing to say and a sign of desperation with other issues.
I’m religious but the girl I’m trying to dating she very religious and she told me her wedding to be with gospel no earth music and I find hard to accept it.