I remember straight up asking what "masturbating" was after hearing the word in big bang theory. My mother told me straight up "when a man wants to get pleasure he moves his penis up and down" I didnt get what she meant at all but still in retrospect I am thankful for not being treated as a moron. Even when I was very young
i moved back home with family who didn't accept my lifestyle. I suppressed myself and now im self conscious…this was years ago and it still messes with me til this day. How do i overcome this?
I’ve always been attracted to BBW fatter women. I’ve always been ashamed of my sexual attraction. I don’t know how to overcome it. I’ve dated women that I’m not attracted to and feel bad because I thought as a man I could attracted to any body type. I’m very athletic and like an active partner to do activities with but I’m only attracted fatter women. I’m still confused. What should I do give in to my sexual desires or date someone my body type?
The thing is, I talk about sex all the time and talk about it pretty openly. It's the actual act of sex that I feel the shame. It took me years to not feel such shame while being sexual with myself. I wonder why I still have so much shame embedded within me, even though I can speak so openly about it with friends and even family at times.
I think it's hard because the majority of our parents had even less sexual training than us, and often never had time to really explore or understand their own bodies and desires. Not to mention many of us grew up in somewhat religious households, and you get people with lots of repressed feelings.
I myself struggle with this a lot. Aa a Asian male, I felt shame for not being the stereotypical white dude who has everything. I saw no representation and expressing of a sexualized Asian man, so I struggled with just exactly how I was supposed to express my sexuality. I hardly see or saw Asian men doing it. My parents also didn't really teach me or show me anything about sex, and in many ways I inherited their views about sex for myself. Overall though I didn't feel happy about my body, my sex life. All this turned into bitterness, and only made me envious and spiteful of people who could express themselves more freely.
I however want to do better and push myself to overcome a lot of these challenges. I try not to deny my sexuality anymore, and embrace but also reject my feelings of shame towards sexuality.
Because what is more beautiful than seeing to humans experience bodies together? Why should there be any shame in pleasure that is approached wisely?
Many people think sex is only used for personal pleasure and bliss. In some cases it can be. But what I love the most about sex is the intimate relationships you can share with someone, getting to see parts of people that not everyone can see. You get to share private moments with each other that only you can know. It's the true bonding and intimacy that I love and adore from my sex partners.
My mothers said that if I had sex in high school she would take me out of school . First month of high school I was raped. I was so ashamed and worried that my parents would take me out of school that I let him keep abusing me and hope for it all to end after the school year. I’m 21 years old now and am scared of sex. My mom says that since I’m an adult it’s okay to have sex. But because of what happens I feel shame about sex In general.
My parents are homophobic and my mom took away my phone for a week and went through everything I had in it. She went through all my accounts and I had lesbian corn and gay corn in it. She read it all and then forced me to come out by asking me if I liked girls. The worst part was my brother helped her find my search history and he read it all too. They made me feel ashamed for watching corn because according to my family women shouldn't be a watching those things and they can't touch themselves that's only for their future husband's to touch. That day I stopped trusting everyone in my family and hated my brother and mom for it. It's been like 2 years now since then but I will always resent them for making me feel embarrassed for something that is totally normal for teens to do.
My ex says she’s feeling shame cause she’s 64 and I’m 39. She broke up with me after 10 months cause she was worried her 40 year old daughter would find out 😥
I am 26 and I am now beginning to become more accepting of my sexual urges. I am beginning to explore what I like and dislike sexually and it's all because I am beginning to love myself more. Not exploring my sexuality or not having sexual urges was my way of punishing myself. And that is why people who have issues with their sexuality should really confront their mental issues as a way to heal.
SIGMUND FREUD : " THE LOSS OF SHAME IS THE BEGINNING OF ALL MADNESS "
HOW PAINFUL 😭😱 IT MUST BE FOR THE PROGRESSIVE SEX TALKERS THAT THIS IS A QUOTE OF NO ONE ELSE THAN SIGMUND FREUD HIMSELF ❗❗
HE KNEW THAT PEOPLE WHO THINK THAT 'TALKING ABOUT SEX IS THERAPEUTICAL', THESE ARE THE PEOPLE BEING HYSTERICALLY AFRAID OF SEX: SO, THEY TRY TO ESCAPE THE TRUE NATURE OF IT : THE RISKS, THE UNPREDICTABLE CHAOS, THE MADNESS, PAIN AND DANGER ALL SEXUAL ATTRACTION ' IS HEIR TO 😀📙"
NEVERMIND: KEEP ON TRYING ANYWAY : ORGANIZE IT: STUDY IT, TALK OPENLY, TRY TO UNDERSTAND AND CONTROL SEX , AND AVOID OUT OF FEAR THE VERY HARD PAIN OF ITS FIRE BURNING WOUNDS ❗🔥
AND LIKE THIS: NEVER FEEL THE HEAT 🤣❗❗ WOW ❗ HOW EXCITING ❗❤️
One of the most interesting words in the English language today is the word "Fuck". It is a magical word just by its sound it can describe pain, pleasure, hate and love. In language it falls into many grammatical categories. It can be used as a verb both transitive, John fucked Mary and intransitive, Mary was fucked by John, and as a noun, Mary is a fine fuck. It can be used as an objective, Mary is fucking beautiful. As you can see there are not many words with the versatility of "Fuck". Besides the sexual meaning there are also the following uses: Ignorance – fucked if I know. Trouble – I guess I'm fucked now. Fraud – I got fucked at the used car lot. Aggression – fuck you! Displeasure – what the fuck is going on here? Difficulty – I can't understand this fucking job! Incompetence – he is a fuck off. Suspicion – what the fuck are you doing? Enjoyment – I had a fucking good time. Request – get the fuck out of here. Hostility – I'm going to knock your fucking head off. Greeting – how the fuck are you? Apathy – who gives a fuck? Innovation – get a bigger fucking hammer. Surprize – fuck, you scared the shit out of me! Anxiety – today is really fucked. And it is very healthy too. If every morning you do it as a transcendental meditation. Just when you get up, first thing, repeat the mantra: "Fuck you" five times. It clears your throat too. OK? 😂
At the end of the day, this exercise teaches us that, in many cases, looking terrible in public isn’t as bad as we believe. Sure, we might get some looks and giggles, but these don’t hurt, now do they? The Cynic philosopher Diogenes of Sinope used to sleep in a barrel on the streets, walking around in ragged clothes, ‘pleasured’ himself in public, and insulted people who walked past him. He didn’t care what people thought of him. Therefore, no one was able to hurt him.
I can never forget my mother calling me a whore for hugging a boy in highschool with my arms over his rather than the other way around. She went silent when I asked her when she was planning to teach me there was a "proper" way to hug someone.
I think I just haven't found the right super hot charming guy yet. But I have seen other women be shamed for having sex and getting pregnant. I am glad that sex is not needed in life and that 90% of life is not about sex at all but about other beautiful existence.
The comment about how bullies can destroy you through body-shaming at 1:55 said everything to me: My bully filmed me while showering 12 years ago. After more than a decade since that, suddenly I understand a lot, thank you so much. This channel is pure gold, I can't believe is free.
My parents said they didn’t want my little brother hanging out with a family friend who was a teenager at the time because “she’s a teenager and they all want the same thing.” I was about to be a teenager and that really twisted my view for a long time.
i feel gross for having these urges because ive been called ugly and desexualized my whole life as a muslim woman, im 19 and still a virgin even though i want to lose it and share my body with someone else, its as if no one feels the same, and every time im alone with these feelings i just sink further and further into a depressive state because i cant be loved enough to express myself in that way
I wish I had parents who never enraged due to my unlikely fetish and urges that I'm currently dealing with. I had exposed to porn, masturbation and sexual frustration when I was a teen until in my early 30s. I had to find myself to rebalance it and rekindle it. I got issues during my career that I need to address. For me, that addiction I have is my own version of depression. A sign of my own insecurities and weakness.
Oh how much time sex and sexual shame took from my life. All the girls I saw getting slut shamed including myself. The times I could be productive, doing more important things were spent under the covers in bed crying or worrying about sex and men. I can truly never forgive the people who did this to us. I remind myself of the world I would want to create for my kids. I want my kids to be free to explore their sexuality in a safe environment. No matter what their orientation would be and how many partners they would want to have, I want to create a different life for them. I wish I could save myself first and not be in so much pain
I remember being shamed for simply getting my period for the first time. I was already so confused and in physical pain; on top of it I was made to feel like I was now something shameful and sexual because I could become pregnant – for something I had not choice or control over!
IMO the woman's vagina is a trap. They use it to lure us in and when we have kids, it's over. Now, you can't leave! At least if you're like me and love your kids. Mine has grown cold and thinks that is normal.
I took a trip to Thailand to have the first sex I've had in a while. Glad to have got that out of my system. Didn't break any laws or coerce anybody's natural willpower. It anybody's the whore, of course it's me, and at all times respect to the sexworkers and hostesses bringing me to that realisation.
I recently had a cybersex experience for the first time. I’m a person who had something done to me when I was younger and for years was grappling with sexual shame. I also had a parent who made me feel like every one of my actions was being constantly judged and that I was always being watched.
I felt very nervous during the experience, and I’m thankful my partner was patient with me. He had gone through a similar experience.
The biggest thing was being perceived as dirty or slutty for even wanting to engage, especially because it’s another guy. I had a good time, but I’m still shaking off the anxiety. I have to remember that I am also human and that it’s natural to have sexual desires. I need not be afraid of my body reacting to arousal, it is not a form of submission.
Great video,but I disagree on one point sexual repression is a result of religious brainwashing and indoctrination as atheist and secular humanist for all my life I never felt any stigma over sexuality.
seriously identify with this. I’m 34 and suffer from Aspergers. I feel just like a moderately autistic person who are too mentally flawed to achieve a romantic relationship and would be perceived as a pervert for trying.
I man still a child and have never had it but I have thoughts about sexual and sensuality negatively like males would sexualise you in a bad way and it can be a bit scary it comedy from my own sexuality
Not sure about the shame side of things but as a married male I don't care for sex. It doesn't feel anything like what everyone claims. It's just like a job I'm not getting paid for. If you enjoy it more power to ya but leave me out.
its not a SIN to be a sexual person, each to their own and whoever thinks its okay to change someones wants and likes to benefit them, or to shame someone for things that are natural to you is disgusting
Love stinks.
I remember straight up asking what "masturbating" was after hearing the word in big bang theory. My mother told me straight up "when a man wants to get pleasure he moves his penis up and down" I didnt get what she meant at all but still in retrospect I am thankful for not being treated as a moron. Even when I was very young
i moved back home with family who didn't accept my lifestyle. I suppressed myself and now im self conscious…this was years ago and it still messes with me til this day. How do i overcome this?
The animation style 😍
I’ve always been attracted to BBW fatter women. I’ve always been ashamed of my sexual attraction. I don’t know how to overcome it. I’ve dated women that I’m not attracted to and feel bad because I thought as a man I could attracted to any body type. I’m very athletic and like an active partner to do activities with but I’m only attracted fatter women. I’m still confused. What should I do give in to my sexual desires or date someone my body type?
It's not easy if you have disabilities I'm hated
Love the message, and the artwork is lovely.
The thing is, I talk about sex all the time and talk about it pretty openly. It's the actual act of sex that I feel the shame. It took me years to not feel such shame while being sexual with myself.
I wonder why I still have so much shame embedded within me, even though I can speak so openly about it with friends and even family at times.
What do you do about sexual shame from religion?
SO …. YOU HAVE BEEN ABUSED !!!!-":??????????
Yep hit right on the spot.
I think it's hard because the majority of our parents had even less sexual training than us, and often never had time to really explore or understand their own bodies and desires. Not to mention many of us grew up in somewhat religious households, and you get people with lots of repressed feelings.
I myself struggle with this a lot. Aa a Asian male, I felt shame for not being the stereotypical white dude who has everything. I saw no representation and expressing of a sexualized Asian man, so I struggled with just exactly how I was supposed to express my sexuality. I hardly see or saw Asian men doing it. My parents also didn't really teach me or show me anything about sex, and in many ways I inherited their views about sex for myself. Overall though I didn't feel happy about my body, my sex life. All this turned into bitterness, and only made me envious and spiteful of people who could express themselves more freely.
I however want to do better and push myself to overcome a lot of these challenges. I try not to deny my sexuality anymore, and embrace but also reject my feelings of shame towards sexuality.
Because what is more beautiful than seeing to humans experience bodies together? Why should there be any shame in pleasure that is approached wisely?
Many people think sex is only used for personal pleasure and bliss. In some cases it can be. But what I love the most about sex is the intimate relationships you can share with someone, getting to see parts of people that not everyone can see. You get to share private moments with each other that only you can know. It's the true bonding and intimacy that I love and adore from my sex partners.
My mothers said that if I had sex in high school she would take me out of school . First month of high school I was raped. I was so ashamed and worried that my parents would take me out of school that I let him keep abusing me and hope for it all to end after the school year.
I’m 21 years old now and am scared of sex. My mom says that since I’m an adult it’s okay to have sex. But because of what happens I feel shame about sex In general.
My parents are homophobic and my mom took away my phone for a week and went through everything I had in it. She went through all my accounts and I had lesbian corn and gay corn in it. She read it all and then forced me to come out by asking me if I liked girls. The worst part was my brother helped her find my search history and he read it all too. They made me feel ashamed for watching corn because according to my family women shouldn't be a watching those things and they can't touch themselves that's only for their future husband's to touch. That day I stopped trusting everyone in my family and hated my brother and mom for it. It's been like 2 years now since then but I will always resent them for making me feel embarrassed for something that is totally normal for teens to do.
My ex says she’s feeling shame cause she’s 64 and I’m 39. She broke up with me after 10 months cause she was worried her 40 year old daughter would find out 😥
I am 26 and I am now beginning to become more accepting of my sexual urges. I am beginning to explore what I like and dislike sexually and it's all because I am beginning to love myself more. Not exploring my sexuality or not having sexual urges was my way of punishing myself. And that is why people who have issues with their sexuality should really confront their mental issues as a way to heal.
SIGMUND FREUD :
" THE LOSS OF SHAME IS THE BEGINNING OF ALL MADNESS "
HOW PAINFUL 😭😱 IT MUST BE FOR THE PROGRESSIVE SEX TALKERS THAT THIS IS A QUOTE OF NO ONE ELSE THAN SIGMUND FREUD HIMSELF ❗❗
HE KNEW THAT PEOPLE WHO THINK THAT 'TALKING ABOUT SEX IS THERAPEUTICAL', THESE ARE THE PEOPLE BEING HYSTERICALLY AFRAID OF SEX: SO, THEY TRY TO ESCAPE THE TRUE NATURE OF IT :
THE RISKS, THE UNPREDICTABLE CHAOS, THE MADNESS, PAIN AND DANGER ALL SEXUAL ATTRACTION ' IS HEIR TO 😀📙"
NEVERMIND:
KEEP ON TRYING ANYWAY : ORGANIZE IT: STUDY IT, TALK OPENLY, TRY TO UNDERSTAND AND CONTROL SEX , AND AVOID OUT OF FEAR THE VERY HARD PAIN OF ITS FIRE BURNING WOUNDS ❗🔥
AND LIKE THIS:
NEVER FEEL THE HEAT 🤣❗❗
WOW ❗ HOW EXCITING ❗❤️
Connect your self to one you see. Dive into a visual sea. To find, the fruit of a language of Love divine.
One of the most interesting words
in the English language today
is the word "Fuck".
It is a magical word
just by its sound it can describe
pain, pleasure, hate and love.
In language it falls into many grammatical categories.
It can be used as a verb
both transitive, John fucked Mary
and intransitive, Mary was fucked by John,
and as a noun, Mary is a fine fuck.
It can be used as an objective,
Mary is fucking beautiful.
As you can see there are not many
words with the versatility of "Fuck".
Besides the sexual meaning
there are also the following uses:
Ignorance – fucked if I know.
Trouble – I guess I'm fucked now.
Fraud – I got fucked at the used car lot.
Aggression – fuck you!
Displeasure – what the fuck is going on here?
Difficulty – I can't understand this fucking job!
Incompetence – he is a fuck off.
Suspicion – what the fuck are you doing?
Enjoyment – I had a fucking good time.
Request – get the fuck out of here.
Hostility – I'm going to knock your fucking head off.
Greeting – how the fuck are you?
Apathy – who gives a fuck?
Innovation – get a bigger fucking hammer.
Surprize – fuck, you scared the shit out of me!
Anxiety – today is really fucked.
And it is very healthy too.
If every morning you do it
as a transcendental meditation.
Just when you get up,
first thing, repeat the mantra:
"Fuck you" five times.
It clears your throat too.
OK? 😂
At the end of the day, this exercise teaches us that, in many cases, looking terrible in public isn’t as bad as we believe. Sure, we might get some looks and giggles, but these don’t hurt, now do they? The Cynic philosopher Diogenes of Sinope used to sleep in a barrel on the streets, walking around in ragged clothes, ‘pleasured’ himself in public, and insulted people who walked past him. He didn’t care what people thought of him. Therefore, no one was able to hurt him.
FUCK THIS PROBLEM
I can never forget my mother calling me a whore for hugging a boy in highschool with my arms over his rather than the other way around. She went silent when I asked her when she was planning to teach me there was a "proper" way to hug someone.
Very well done.
Thank you. Thank you so much.
I think I just haven't found the right super hot charming guy yet. But I have seen other women be shamed for having sex and getting pregnant. I am glad that sex is not needed in life and that 90% of life is not about sex at all but about other beautiful existence.
The comment about how bullies can destroy you through body-shaming at 1:55 said everything to me: My bully filmed me while showering 12 years ago. After more than a decade since that, suddenly I understand a lot, thank you so much. This channel is pure gold, I can't believe is free.
My parents said they didn’t want my little brother hanging out with a family friend who was a teenager at the time because “she’s a teenager and they all want the same thing.” I was about to be a teenager and that really twisted my view for a long time.
i feel gross for having these urges because ive been called ugly and desexualized my whole life as a muslim woman, im 19 and still a virgin even though i want to lose it and share my body with someone else, its as if no one feels the same, and every time im alone with these feelings i just sink further and further into a depressive state because i cant be loved enough to express myself in that way
I wish I had parents who never enraged due to my unlikely fetish and urges that I'm currently dealing with. I had exposed to porn, masturbation and sexual frustration when I was a teen until in my early 30s. I had to find myself to rebalance it and rekindle it. I got issues during my career that I need to address. For me, that addiction I have is my own version of depression. A sign of my own insecurities and weakness.
Oh how much time sex and sexual shame took from my life. All the girls I saw getting slut shamed including myself. The times I could be productive, doing more important things were spent under the covers in bed crying or worrying about sex and men. I can truly never forgive the people who did this to us. I remind myself of the world I would want to create for my kids. I want my kids to be free to explore their sexuality in a safe environment. No matter what their orientation would be and how many partners they would want to have, I want to create a different life for them. I wish I could save myself first and not be in so much pain
Oh it's all about love fk u bull ,it's perverted period and you know it that's why it gets you off
I remember being shamed for simply getting my period for the first time. I was already so confused and in physical pain; on top of it I was made to feel like I was now something shameful and sexual because I could become pregnant – for something I had not choice or control over!
Shame is a good thing, being a whore never is and should never be forgotten/forgiven. Gross
Just can’t find the girls to have it with, I’m mentally drained and need to be loved first
IMO the woman's vagina is a trap. They use it to lure us in and when we have kids, it's over. Now, you can't leave! At least if you're like me and love your kids. Mine has grown cold and thinks that is normal.
I took a trip to Thailand to have the first sex I've had in a while. Glad to have got that out of my system. Didn't break any laws or coerce anybody's natural willpower. It anybody's the whore, of course it's me, and at all times respect to the sexworkers and hostesses bringing me to that realisation.
I recently had a cybersex experience for the first time. I’m a person who had something done to me when I was younger and for years was grappling with sexual shame. I also had a parent who made me feel like every one of my actions was being constantly judged and that I was always being watched.
I felt very nervous during the experience, and I’m thankful my partner was patient with me. He had gone through a similar experience.
The biggest thing was being perceived as dirty or slutty for even wanting to engage, especially because it’s another guy. I had a good time, but I’m still shaking off the anxiety. I have to remember that I am also human and that it’s natural to have sexual desires. I need not be afraid of my body reacting to arousal, it is not a form of submission.
Great video,but I disagree on one point sexual repression is a result of religious brainwashing and indoctrination as atheist and secular humanist for all my life I never felt any stigma over sexuality.
The challenging thing is wanting sex, but finding no one your attracted to, to fulfil this desire. Its lonely.
It have been a religious related problem for so many millions of people.
I needed this because I was raised to feel guilty and shameful about sex and enjoying sex.
seriously identify with this. I’m 34 and suffer from Aspergers. I feel just like a moderately autistic person who are too mentally flawed to achieve a romantic relationship and would be perceived as a pervert for trying.
I man still a child and have never had it but I have thoughts about sexual and sensuality negatively like males would sexualise you in a bad way and it can be a bit scary it comedy from my own sexuality
i feel so shameful every time i think about it. i feel like i gave it up too easily and looking at my body just reminds me of it
Not sure about the shame side of things but as a married male I don't care for sex. It doesn't feel anything like what everyone claims. It's just like a job I'm not getting paid for. If you enjoy it more power to ya but leave me out.
its not a SIN to be a sexual person, each to their own and whoever thinks its okay to change someones wants and likes to benefit them, or to shame someone for things that are natural to you is disgusting