Do you think backbiting is happening at your workplace or place of study? Glenn Rolfsen’s talk is about what contributes to a toxic …
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I find it helpful to exude a healthy persona upon both the workplace environment and coworkers/management and especially customers and patrons if that is the case. This means cleaning and organizing the workplace out of one’s own proactivity in addition to maintaining upbeat and cohesive relationships with personnel in appropriate ways.
I think the main issue is people get comfortable and then don’t care about new people coming in. They just have to find their way and really it’s sad. They need to really stop and yes I’m guilty of back biting but i will tell you why I do it. Because I do not like or appreciate negative people trying to befriend me.
I was making good money working as an Armed Security Guard inside a posh posh ($$$$$) high end jewelery store in Boca Raton. The concentrated toxicity of all that toxicity of working alongside frustrated mercenary ravenous sales whores was just too too much for me to continually absorb and take as a lone non participatory male…. I had to walk away because it was slowly and insidiously infecting my inner peace of mind. I've learned more about the true nature of female.hypergamy and wiring of these female creatures than I would have learned anywhere else. How they viewed EVERY ONE based on what car they drove, what watch they wore etc etc… No room or space for simple.humanity or basic raw decency to make itself known. Thank God I was perceptive enough to see all this.
We are having a problem at work with this very situation. Thankfully my manager knows of the problem and wants to make our enviroment better. I mean come on! We spend almost everyday at work 9 to 5, sometimes seeing our coworkers more than our own families. There is no place for such toxicity…no negative talk is allowed at home, so why would I tolerate it at work? Great talk, I'm sending this to my bosses! 🙏
Every time you're being compared with somebody, makes an influence on forming your self-esteem. In the working environment where I am right now, there is always the one who is being bullied. And if there is no victim, it means you're the one. For the person who will not adapt and will not support those who are bullying the victim, it will be a high risk to become the one who is being bullied and blackbiten. Believe me, this is much deeper than just gossiping, such things can totally ruin your self-esteem or lead to emotional burnout For sure, it works differently for everyone, cannot even imagine how devastating the consequences can be
"Nor backbite one another; would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would abhor it". (Qur'an 49:12)
Abu Dharr (r) once asked the Prophet Muhammad (s): “O Messenger of Allah, what is gheebah (backbiting)?” He replied: “It is to mention about your brother that which he detests.” Abu Dharr (r) said: “O Messenger of Allah, what if that which is mentioned of him should actually be in him?” He (s) replied: “Know that when you mention that which is in him, you have committed his gheebah (backbiting), and when you mention that which is not in him, then you have slandered him.”[Al-Hurr al-`Amili, Wasai'l al-Shi`ah, vol. 8, hadith no. 16312]
The Prophet (s) once gave counsel to Abu Dharr (r) , saying: “O Abu Dharr! Beware of backbiting, for backbiting is graver than adultery (zina’).” Abu Dharr (r) said: “Why is that so, O Messenger of Allah?” He (s) replied: “That is because when a man commits adultery and then repents to God, God accepts his repentance. However, backbiting is not forgiven until forgiven by its victim.” [Al-Hurr al-`Amili, Wasai'l al-Shi`ah, vol. 8, hadith no. 18312]
i beg to differ with the title, but it takes more than one person to implement actions for changes, particularly when a work environment or group of people have a different set of beliefs and interpretation of what reality is. Sounds good in words of the title, but hardly the true actions it takes to even begin to promote better change
I worked in a few toxic environments and my experience was that I could bring long term meaningful change to the culture and atmosphere where I was in leadership positions, and had the power to effect change. Even with the authority to effect change, it did not happen without a lot of time, determination and effort.
Where I didn't have the authority to effect change, it was practically impossible to do so. Although, in my personal capacity, I never allowed the environment to influence my behaviour, it was still emotionally and mentally draining, causing me to leave for my own peace of mind
I've worked in the medical field for years. It is full of drama, gossip and cattiness. But, that's what happens when you work in an environment with predominantly women. Prove me wrong!
When they back bite and in case the victim reacts to it, they start a smear campaign and brutal office mobbing. I have been told they are training me to take abuse, torture and harassment without complain if I react or curse the culprits or talk about it or even cry then they will give more reason to me to cry. Simple ones no matter how smart and good they are have no place in unethical, vicious, vile women's world.
I find it helpful to exude a healthy persona upon both the workplace environment and coworkers/management and especially customers and patrons if that is the case. This means cleaning and organizing the workplace out of one’s own proactivity in addition to maintaining upbeat and cohesive relationships with personnel in appropriate ways.
He took so long to get to the point.
You cannot change someone who doesn't want to change. Everyone leaves bc of their bosses. It is RARELY bc of the salary.
Humble man . Thank you sir
Totally disagree sick leave is important!!!!
no .. I disagree ..
I think the main issue is people get comfortable and then don’t care about new people coming in. They just have to find their way and really it’s sad. They need to really stop and yes I’m guilty of back biting but i will tell you why I do it. Because I do not like or appreciate negative people trying to befriend me.
Ugh yes. Spread. The. Word.
I was making good money working as an Armed Security Guard inside a posh posh ($$$$$) high end jewelery store in Boca Raton. The concentrated toxicity of all that toxicity of working alongside frustrated mercenary ravenous sales whores was just too too much for me to continually absorb and take as a lone non participatory male…. I had to walk away because it was slowly and insidiously infecting my inner peace of mind. I've learned more about the true nature of female.hypergamy and wiring of these female creatures than I would have learned anywhere else. How they viewed EVERY ONE based on what car they drove, what watch they wore etc etc…
No room or space for simple.humanity or basic raw decency to make itself known. Thank God I was perceptive enough to see all this.
People will gossip about anything. They gossiped about how I was quiet.. "oh we thought you didn't like us or something" what?? toxic!
Lol.
We are having a problem at work with this very situation. Thankfully my manager knows of the problem and wants to make our enviroment better. I mean come on! We spend almost everyday at work 9 to 5, sometimes seeing our coworkers more than our own families. There is no place for such toxicity…no negative talk is allowed at home, so why would I tolerate it at work? Great talk, I'm sending this to my bosses! 🙏
Every time you're being compared with somebody, makes an influence on forming your self-esteem. In the working environment where I am right now, there is always the one who is being bullied. And if there is no victim, it means you're the one. For the person who will not adapt and will not support those who are bullying the victim, it will be a high risk to become the one who is being bullied and blackbiten. Believe me, this is much deeper than just gossiping, such things can totally ruin your self-esteem or lead to emotional burnout
For sure, it works differently for everyone, cannot even imagine how devastating the consequences can be
"Nor backbite one another; would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would abhor it". (Qur'an 49:12)
Abu Dharr (r) once asked the Prophet Muhammad (s): “O Messenger of Allah, what is gheebah (backbiting)?” He replied: “It is to mention about your brother that which he detests.” Abu Dharr (r) said: “O Messenger of Allah, what if that which is mentioned of him should actually be in him?” He (s) replied: “Know that when you mention that which is in him, you have committed his gheebah (backbiting), and when you mention that which is not in him, then you have slandered him.”[Al-Hurr al-`Amili, Wasai'l al-Shi`ah, vol. 8, hadith no. 16312]
The Prophet (s) once gave counsel to Abu Dharr (r) , saying: “O Abu Dharr! Beware of backbiting, for backbiting is graver than adultery (zina’).” Abu Dharr (r) said: “Why is that so, O Messenger of Allah?” He (s) replied: “That is because when a man commits adultery and then repents to God, God accepts his repentance. However, backbiting is not forgiven until forgiven by its victim.” [Al-Hurr al-`Amili, Wasai'l al-Shi`ah, vol. 8, hadith no. 18312]
Watching this so I can route out all of the toxic wokism at my job.
Wish me luck.
awesome
in my working place, men backbites a lot and dont have respect to others. Bully
I'm adding a BIG Like!
i beg to differ with the title, but it takes more than one person to implement actions for changes, particularly when a work environment or group of people have a different set of beliefs and interpretation of what reality is. Sounds good in words of the title, but hardly the true actions it takes to even begin to promote better change
Thankyou
I worked in a few toxic environments and my experience was that I could bring long term meaningful change to the culture and atmosphere where I was in leadership positions, and had the power to effect change. Even with the authority to effect change, it did not happen without a lot of time, determination and effort.
Where I didn't have the authority to effect change, it was practically impossible to do so. Although, in my personal capacity, I never allowed the environment to influence my behaviour, it was still emotionally and mentally draining, causing me to leave for my own peace of mind
Transactional analysis helps to understand what is going on.
I work in a male dominated industry and I can assure you that men "back bite" just as much as women
I've worked in the medical field for years. It is full of drama, gossip and cattiness. But, that's what happens when you work in an environment with predominantly women. Prove me wrong!
Woman logic at work:
John: Hey, Lexi. Do you need help with anything at the moment?
Lexi: No, I'm good.
Later that day, Lexi goes on her lunch break and runs into her work bestie, Karen.
Lexi: Girl, I'm pissed off. I really don't like working with John because he never helps me with anything
Karen: Girl, that's messed up.
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When they back bite and in case the victim reacts to it, they start a smear campaign and brutal office mobbing. I have been told they are training me to take abuse, torture and harassment without complain if I react or curse the culprits or talk about it or even cry then they will give more reason to me to cry. Simple ones no matter how smart and good they are have no place in unethical, vicious, vile women's world.
This dude probably busts so many unions