Pro tip: the actual questions donât start until 4 minutes into the video. All these questions are cringeworthy, probably because I just donât like small talk.
This only works in western countries. In Asia, the small talk is either a addressing down by elders or an announcement by peers of how great their life is.
i have i guess 3 problems with a lot of these questions, and questions similar to them that people ask.
first and most simply, as others have said, i just donât care what the answer is. it really doesnât concern me what youâre doing this weekend unless it somehow involves me.
second is that a lot of things people consider small talk questions are not things i want to answer about myself from some person i just met or donât already know well, so i wonât ask those questions to others because i would consider it invasive if they asked me. for example, i would never in a million years ask a random neighbor where they work. why? well first, see #1, but second, if they asked me that question, my immediate reaction would be to think, what business is it of yours? why do you care? what are you going to do with this information? and itâs even worse because it almost never stops at the first question. once they have that information, they then want you to elaborate further. no thank you. itâs really not your business to know where i work, where i live, what i have, about my family, or similar. it just comes across as invasive and in some cases creepy. i had a coworker once just casually ask to know where my mother lives. what are you possibly going to do with that info? why do you need that? so, i just donât ask people questions like this because i wouldnât want it asked of me.
lastly, some of these questions presume a certain amount of privilege that you just cannot presume other people have. up until a couple of months ago i was working 65-70 hours a week at two jobs (legal assistance and medical reception) and living out of my car because the cost of living in my area is so outrageously high. so questions like where i live and what i do in my âspare timeâ ended up just being extremely awkward and uncomfortable. what am i doing on the weekend? i donât have a weekend. i work 7 days a week. what neighborhood do i live in? wherever i can park for the night. i still have a friend in this same position. after it happened to me, i came to find out there are more than youâd think. similarly, questions about travel- âi just got back from France, have you ever been?â⊠that person may never be able to afford dreaming of traveling anywhere let alone having actually been. unless you already know for 100% certain that the individual is in a similar economic class to yourself, this is not a great question to ask. and donât presume that because you work with them, they must enjoy the same quality of life that you do. again, i was living in my car for almost a year and none of my coworkers had any idea. questions about how your holidays went can be uncomfortable for some people too. the holidays are difficult for a lot of people for a variety of reasons. maybe because they couldnât afford to buy gifts for their family. maybe because they donât have any family to celebrate with. maybe because this is their first holiday without their mother, father, husband, wife, grandmother, etc. You can end up doing nothing but upsetting the person by bringing it up. i just wouldnât ask.
in summary, a lot of questions people think are fair game for âsmall talkâ, i would consider not small talk. weather is small talk. thatâs fine. personal interview type questions are not small talk in my view, i donât want them asked of me, and i never ask them of other people. i figure if they want me to have that information about them, they will volunteer it.
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Pro tip: the actual questions donât start until 4 minutes into the video.
All these questions are cringeworthy, probably because I just donât like small talk.
This only works in western countries. In Asia, the small talk is either a addressing down by elders or an announcement by peers of how great their life is.
Watching this i couldnât think of anything worse just avoid eye contact at all cost
Stunning woman indeedâŠ
Me who uses weather app when someone new is around međ
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Wow, so many of these questions are rude and intrusive.
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What do you mean âare you from here?â Means do you grew up here or do you live nearby?
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i have i guess 3 problems with a lot of these questions, and questions similar to them that people ask.
first and most simply, as others have said, i just donât care what the answer is. it really doesnât concern me what youâre doing this weekend unless it somehow involves me.
second is that a lot of things people consider small talk questions are not things i want to answer about myself from some person i just met or donât already know well, so i wonât ask those questions to others because i would consider it invasive if they asked me. for example, i would never in a million years ask a random neighbor where they work. why? well first, see #1, but second, if they asked me that question, my immediate reaction would be to think, what business is it of yours? why do you care? what are you going to do with this information? and itâs even worse because it almost never stops at the first question. once they have that information, they then want you to elaborate further. no thank you. itâs really not your business to know where i work, where i live, what i have, about my family, or similar. it just comes across as invasive and in some cases creepy. i had a coworker once just casually ask to know where my mother lives. what are you possibly going to do with that info? why do you need that? so, i just donât ask people questions like this because i wouldnât want it asked of me.
lastly, some of these questions presume a certain amount of privilege that you just cannot presume other people have. up until a couple of months ago i was working 65-70 hours a week at two jobs (legal assistance and medical reception) and living out of my car because the cost of living in my area is so outrageously high. so questions like where i live and what i do in my âspare timeâ ended up just being extremely awkward and uncomfortable. what am i doing on the weekend? i donât have a weekend. i work 7 days a week. what neighborhood do i live in? wherever i can park for the night. i still have a friend in this same position. after it happened to me, i came to find out there are more than youâd think. similarly, questions about travel- âi just got back from France, have you ever been?â⊠that person may never be able to afford dreaming of traveling anywhere let alone having actually been. unless you already know for 100% certain that the individual is in a similar economic class to yourself, this is not a great question to ask. and donât presume that because you work with them, they must enjoy the same quality of life that you do. again, i was living in my car for almost a year and none of my coworkers had any idea. questions about how your holidays went can be uncomfortable for some people too. the holidays are difficult for a lot of people for a variety of reasons. maybe because they couldnât afford to buy gifts for their family. maybe because they donât have any family to celebrate with. maybe because this is their first holiday without their mother, father, husband, wife, grandmother, etc. You can end up doing nothing but upsetting the person by bringing it up. i just wouldnât ask.
in summary, a lot of questions people think are fair game for âsmall talkâ, i would consider not small talk. weather is small talk. thatâs fine. personal interview type questions are not small talk in my view, i donât want them asked of me, and i never ask them of other people. i figure if they want me to have that information about them, they will volunteer it.
Thanks for the good tips. Sorry to be so direct, but you are so beautiful that I lose focus on what you are saying. Have a lovely day.
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I have learned a lot with this videosâŠ.!!! Thank you so much for Your effort
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