Well, while I completely agree with treat teens as adults with love and respect, having God as the perfect example. The rules and tolerance when dealing with a teen can be very different from one child to another, throwing this technic out of the window. My personal experience with my 19yr old daughter everything we tried was ruined by her friends influence and advice. Eventually we noticed she stopped going to church, and we not force it. Then started going out more frequent, and again with love we allowed it most of the time. Then, she did not came back home to sleep, now I have to draw a thicker line saying. Okay, because we love you and concern about your welfare and safety, you can go out with your friends, but 2am you need to come back home.
She simply said, "you guys are too strict and controlling, I am not a kid anymore". I do not want to be explaining to you guys my whereabouts, and I will rent a room for me to live.
Sure enough she did, and told the rest of the family that we are controlling and too strict parents. We told her we love her, and living the house was her rights to decide, but nevertheless we still love her regardless. Now she avoids contact and relationship with us saying her friends' parents never did that to them. All we do now is pray.
Bad friends are nasty hail. In matter of minutes they can destroy what you took years to raise.
Hi Mark. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. My wife and I are American missionaries in South East Asia, so the situation with our kids is a little different, but a lot the same as where you are. I'm going to try your 3 tips. Peace!
I have an 18 year old that is backsliden. Comes back to the truth but backslides over and over again. He comes to me to help him after he leaves for days. Expects for me to let him live in my house after stealing and selling my tools for drugs. It's always easy to tell people how to raise a teenager when it's all different. My son tells me " I know dad but I don't want to do it ". He knows what to do but does not want to . Truth is in Romans on the struggle with in.. I know to do good but I do bad. God shows us how disobedient we are through our children to let us know how it feels. After He loves us so much and we still don't listen. I search my self constantly and realized that it's taking me a long time to fall into the place God wants me to be. if only I could stop kicking and screaming along the way. We need help
I am a 15 year old girl and I make straight As and never have drank or smoked yes I’ve been offered before but my parents won’t let me even go to Waffle House on a date with my boyfriend I’m getting tired of being so alone and he’s not a bad guy never has done anything like drink smoke or have sex and I don’t know why I can’t go out and do simple stuff like have a date at a restaurant or see my friends more since they already are starting to drift I even have a learners permit and am in drivers Ed yet can’t go anywhere I don’t think I did anything wrong but maybe parents should at least have small rules like a curfew or at least know who your hanging with
Yes, I agree with many things you said. But that what you said is often not enough. You have to spend time with your teens and not just as their parent, but rather as their friend.
This video really answered me … even though it's hard to accept this truth to love and respect them when they don't deserve but this is a real good advice!I can only have control on me!good one! really makes sense! thanks for sharing this!
I see God has been VERY patient with me, and no punishing me…..yet. I lost the control and yell at my son and now he has learned to do it back to me. And I'm so disappointed on my son for no listening anymore Christian music that I tried to force Christianity on him. Thank you for this video, I will start correcting those points, hoping God intervene soon.
I have a 12 year old sister who has been rebelling against everyone and even threatened to hurt my mom. I was very hurt when I found out she threatened my mom and I haven’t talked to her since, it happened almost a month ago. I helped raise this little girl and she has never acted this way. I know her dad is brainwashing her to put her against my mom and I which is working. I feel very upset and hurt that she has become this way. I’m trying to understand her but I don’t want to reach out to her because what she did was horrible. We wanted her to get a psychiatric evaluation but the therapist told us a couple days after my sister turned 12 that it is her choice if she wants to do therapy! I completely disagree with that! How could a child decide such a thing. Her dad is against her getting any help because “she doesn’t need it” but I know she does. I’m scared for the person she will become. Sorry for the long post just need advice!
My son is 14. Ive experience the changes that he is going thru. Im a single mom so ive mostly taught him to be independent at an early age. I feel bad sometimes and feel disturb that i wasnt consistant. Ive realized that its not all my fault. Its has to do with the brokenness that we are born jnto as well. Everyone of us in born in a sinful nature and has brokeness, pain, suffering and things that weve battle with eevn before our kids cane in the picture. Born in sin shaped in iniquity. From one broken generation to another. In some case u would compare my broken family to others and envy hiw well and scrutured things look like from my view. Then i would feel pretty low and discourage and wonder if i even qualify of being a parent at all? Thats how i was feeling today so i started searching for help and advice to see who might have some tips. There isnt much video's out there discussing this topic. This video was certainly helpful. I will use this tips. Ive notice my screaming and disrespect made me out of control too. So what does that teach him. That thats the ways to handle things with other…smh. i will certainly work in activating more in love, patience, and pray God give me more wisdom kn how to operate as him the good parent!!! Amen i feel so bless. ( he just got back in and i just prayed and didnt jumped on his case right away. I mean whi would want to come home to someone angry all the time. I know i wouldnt…lol. Someone told me to always operate when you are calm if possible. That way you dont look back and regret something that you cant take back or even if you do take it back it leaves a womb that that child carries into adult hood. Im praying forneach parent and child on here right now.
As a protective measure as a child/teen who was abused, I always hardened my heart to people who treated me badly. My teen started treating me badly and I automatically hardened my heart towards her. I realize it’s sinful but I don’t feel like I even love her anymore, let alone like her. What can a parent in this situation do?
Thank you for the advise. It is so very difficult when they are angry and struggling. How to keep your Godly principles intact when total disregard to our home happens frequently
I appreciate so much you share this VIDEO, we only have few good advice with biblical perspective in my language.
Thank you Mark, this really helped me, God bless you and your family
Love them when there hitting u and yelling at you??? Backbiting and lying everyday??? Where's the discipline??????
Well, while I completely agree with treat teens as adults with love and respect, having God as the perfect example. The rules and tolerance when dealing with a teen can be very different from one child to another, throwing this technic out of the window. My personal experience with my 19yr old daughter everything we tried was ruined by her friends influence and advice. Eventually we noticed she stopped going to church, and we not force it. Then started going out more frequent, and again with love we allowed it most of the time. Then, she did not came back home to sleep, now I have to draw a thicker line saying. Okay, because we love you and concern about your welfare and safety, you can go out with your friends, but 2am you need to come back home.
She simply said, "you guys are too strict and controlling, I am not a kid anymore". I do not want to be explaining to you guys my whereabouts, and I will rent a room for me to live.
Sure enough she did, and told the rest of the family that we are controlling and too strict parents. We told her we love her, and living the house was her rights to decide, but nevertheless we still love her regardless. Now she avoids contact and relationship with us saying her friends' parents never did that to them. All we do now is pray.
Bad friends are nasty hail. In matter of minutes they can destroy what you took years to raise.
What would be your advice about it?
From the word to REAL LIFE
So you admit it’s not real
This link can also help you, iv watched the video myself …really important. Check https://youtu.be/JCQ-voCLaYU
Hi Mark. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. My wife and I are American missionaries in South East Asia, so the situation with our kids is a little different, but a lot the same as where you are. I'm going to try your 3 tips. Peace!
What do you do if your child hits you other than be apsoultly heartbroken?
This helped ALOT!!!!
I have an 18 year old that is backsliden. Comes back to the truth but backslides over and over again. He comes to me to help him after he leaves for days. Expects for me to let him live in my house after stealing and selling my tools for drugs. It's always easy to tell people how to raise a teenager when it's all different. My son tells me " I know dad but I don't want to do it ". He knows what to do but does not want to . Truth is in Romans on the struggle with in.. I know to do good but I do bad. God shows us how disobedient we are through our children to let us know how it feels. After He loves us so much and we still don't listen. I search my self constantly and realized that it's taking me a long time to fall into the place God wants me to be. if only I could stop kicking and screaming along the way. We need help
I'm a teen, any teens here?
finally someone who isn't promoting beating children.
Thank you so much. This is helping me understand our situation and think about it righteously.
I hope you do expand on this topic later.
This is so desperately needed in my family thank you
My 15 yo daughter snuck out of the house last night 🤦♀️ I needed this, thanks!!!
I am a 15 year old girl and I make straight As and never have drank or smoked yes I’ve been offered before but my parents won’t let me even go to Waffle House on a date with my boyfriend I’m getting tired of being so alone and he’s not a bad guy never has done anything like drink smoke or have sex and I don’t know why I can’t go out and do simple stuff like have a date at a restaurant or see my friends more since they already are starting to drift I even have a learners permit and am in drivers Ed yet can’t go anywhere I don’t think I did anything wrong but maybe parents should at least have small rules like a curfew or at least know who your hanging with
Well there exists different phases like there exists the heavy rock teenager and the garage band teenager and the punk emo teenager
Thank you Mark. I needed this and it encouraged me! I will be trying these practical biblical tips👍🏼
Good insight. Thank you for sharing your perspective
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Yes, I agree with many things you said. But that what you said is often not enough. You have to spend time with your teens and not just as their parent, but rather as their friend.
This video really answered me … even though it's hard to accept this truth to love and respect them when they don't deserve but this is a real good advice!I can only have control on me!good one! really makes sense! thanks for sharing this!
How are you supposed to love when you never experienced love yourself.
I understand want you saying but today letting your kids walk alone is dangerous after seeing how many people being kidnapped or bitten up
Right now there is now way for kids to go? How do you apply this with a special needs kids?
Talk to me when you’ve had a teenager, okay?
Thank you, it touches my heart because it has not been easy and makes me confused, you make it sounds easier Just by loving and…..
I see God has been VERY patient with me, and no punishing me…..yet.
I lost the control and yell at my son and now he has learned to do it back to me.
And I'm so disappointed on my son for no listening anymore Christian music that I tried to force Christianity on him.
Thank you for this video, I will start correcting those points, hoping God intervene soon.
Toddlers and teenagers are similar. They both test your limits and they both push your buttons and test your patience.
Thank you so much!
Thanks!! You Have helped me today
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I have a 12 year old sister who has been rebelling against everyone and even threatened to hurt my mom. I was very hurt when I found out she threatened my mom and I haven’t talked to her since, it happened almost a month ago. I helped raise this little girl and she has never acted this way. I know her dad is brainwashing her to put her against my mom and I which is working. I feel very upset and hurt that she has become this way. I’m trying to understand her but I don’t want to reach out to her because what she did was horrible. We wanted her to get a psychiatric evaluation but the therapist told us a couple days after my sister turned 12 that it is her choice if she wants to do therapy! I completely disagree with that! How could a child decide such a thing. Her dad is against her getting any help because “she doesn’t need it” but I know she does. I’m scared for the person she will become. Sorry for the long post just need advice!
Thanks you did help!!
My son is 14. Ive experience the changes that he is going thru. Im a single mom so ive mostly taught him to be independent at an early age. I feel bad sometimes and feel disturb that i wasnt consistant. Ive realized that its not all my fault. Its has to do with the brokenness that we are born jnto as well. Everyone of us in born in a sinful nature and has brokeness, pain, suffering and things that weve battle with eevn before our kids cane in the picture. Born in sin shaped in iniquity. From one broken generation to another. In some case u would compare my broken family to others and envy hiw well and scrutured things look like from my view. Then i would feel pretty low and discourage and wonder if i even qualify of being a parent at all? Thats how i was feeling today so i started searching for help and advice to see who might have some tips. There isnt much video's out there discussing this topic. This video was certainly helpful. I will use this tips. Ive notice my screaming and disrespect made me out of control too. So what does that teach him. That thats the ways to handle things with other…smh. i will certainly work in activating more in love, patience, and pray God give me more wisdom kn how to operate as him the good parent!!! Amen i feel so bless. ( he just got back in and i just prayed and didnt jumped on his case right away. I mean whi would want to come home to someone angry all the time. I know i wouldnt…lol.
Someone told me to always operate when you are calm if possible. That way you dont look back and regret something that you cant take back or even if you do take it back it leaves a womb that that child carries into adult hood. Im praying forneach parent and child on here right now.
As a protective measure as a child/teen who was abused, I always hardened my heart to people who treated me badly. My teen started treating me badly and I automatically hardened my heart towards her. I realize it’s sinful but I don’t feel like I even love her anymore, let alone like her. What can a parent in this situation do?
Thank you for the advise. It is so very difficult when they are angry and struggling. How to keep your Godly principles intact when total disregard to our home happens frequently
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You were only 31 years old in this video? God bless you! I enjoy your videos and your contents are full of God's wisdom. Thank you for your hard work.