How to Become a Better Parent: Positive vs. Toxic Parenting Tips I Dr Gabor Maté Who is Gabor Maté? A renowned speaker, and …
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I’m 19 years old and pregnant I gave my first baby up for adoption at 15 it still hurts me that I’ll have to explain this to my baby but for the one I am carrrying it will always know about his brother and I’ll love this baby with every breath in me I’ll instill all my knowledge and life teaching I promise I won’t fail my vany
Both of my parents were alcoholics/addicts..fortunately my saints of College Point NYC my maternal grandparents nurtured Kay & Dorrene from west Texas (military kids Army Nike missiles @various assignments). Home life was DANGEROUS/VIOLENT. We 2 sisters were fast on our feet. When I was taking classes regarding Holy Scripture & focusing on Commandments when one of the Sisters asked us about the Commandments I blurted out that my parents "violated ALL of the Commandments"! Out of the mouth of a stressed out 8 year old!
One of my favorite parts about being a dad is when my small kids accidentally call me ‘mom’. Apparently I occupy the same warm space in their brain that their mom does.
When the pastor of the church caused so much spritual trauma over the years,my mother took his side. I lost her trust but now i am also doubting to go to any church. I feel worthless in God's eyes.
Ohhh … FUCK ME DEAD!!! No wonder we have all this youth crime. Kids need guidance through rules. If you disobey the rules you are punished. The world need to stop listening to these soft fucking woke CUNTS. life ain't easy
I am a 26 year old mom of a 4yo and it breaks my heart to learn how wrong have I been for four long years, my poor baby I dislike me so much for hurting him l, i wish I would've been more like the mom I'd love to had when i was little. I get mad, i don't control my self, i might spank him, and my heart hurts. It hurts because o had to learnt it myself, it hurts because I feel it's late and my kid it's all sad at me. I wish o can take it all back and hug him with all my heart all those nights he was crying and every fiber of my body asked me to picked him up. I wish I wouldn't treat him the way my mom some day did, it's so hard to break the cycle.. fking hard. I'm so glad I have come across of these videos
I was severely neglected as a child. Joined the marines after high school to get away from my family and never looked back. This gabor mate guy is the only person that ever struck a chord with me on my childhood bullshit
There are definitely truths in this, but I completely disagree with the details. Certainly agree with building a relationship with your children, but making a child happy should not be the ultimate goal.
I am not a Mom but I'm watching this for gaining more knowledge for when I'll Have kids in the future by God's will and potentially be a great mom for my kids.Thank you for the tips! 🙂
My poor mother feeds me when I cry as baby girl instead give me attention so I became addicted to food to regulate my feelings.Similar to my father who was alcoholic.Job is done so now I learn to feel again and allow myself to go through anger fears etc.For adult woman is hard work.Thank you for this sharing ❤🙏🙏🙏
My mom and grandma always told me don't pick up ur crying baby u will spoil them..then… I listened mostly with my 1st because I was a teen. It didn't quite feel right but I thought they knew best. By my 2nd I didn't listen much. By my 3rd I definitely know better. I now at 30 have a 12 year old a 3 year old and a 6 month old. I parent with love rather than discipline. I'm more present loving and patient. I sit with them during melt downs… I'm so happy I listened to that part of me that told me to love them through the storm. You can Never spoil ur child.
( REHAB TIME! ) MANY PARENTS DONT CHANGE. THEY STAY THE WAVE THEY R THIS MEANS MANY PARENTS WANT ACT AZ AN ALLY IN UR EXPANSION PATH ESPECIALLY IF IT OPPOSES THEIR NEEDS. FACTS OVA FEELINGS!
I used to watch videos like this to feel validated- “oh that’s what my parents didn’t do” and wonder why I’m stuck in the same cycles of dysfunction. After a lot of “working on myself” I’ve ended up here right now, with clarity I didn’t have before, that I’m grateful I have now. I watched this video with a new motive in mind: if I were going to be a parent, what information would I want to keep in mind before I begin? So, I’m searching for lessons on how to parent, as if preparing to be a parent. Lessons to enrich my capabilities as a caregiver, purely because I value being informed in my actions. I’m not planning on being a parent, but where’s the harm in preparing myself anyway? Humans for all of history have children, and parent- whether purposefully or not: if it’s human to become a parent, I wish to be informed on how to be a good one, even if I never “need” that information. Every human you interact with has a mental pathway developed by their relationship with their “parent” and because of that, knowing how to be a good parent is synonymous with knowing how to have positive interactions with every human alive. Peace and love to you all.
I’m 19 years old and pregnant I gave my first baby up for adoption at 15 it still hurts me that I’ll have to explain this to my baby but for the one I am carrrying it will always know about his brother and I’ll love this baby with every breath in me I’ll instill all my knowledge and life teaching I promise I won’t fail my vany
Both of my parents were
alcoholics/addicts..fortunately my saints of College Point NYC my maternal grandparents nurtured Kay & Dorrene from west Texas (military kids Army Nike missiles @various assignments). Home life was DANGEROUS/VIOLENT. We 2 sisters were fast on our feet.
When I was taking classes regarding Holy Scripture &
focusing on Commandments when one of the Sisters asked us about the Commandments
I blurted out that my parents "violated ALL of
the Commandments"!
Out of the mouth of a stressed out 8 year old!
One of my favorite parts about being a dad is when my small kids accidentally call me ‘mom’. Apparently I occupy the same warm space in their brain that their mom does.
I cannot wait until a mass psychosis blankets the earth as payback for you raping me as a child.
The desire of the child to belong to you. I cried
When the pastor of the church caused so much spritual trauma over the years,my mother took his side. I lost her trust but now i am also doubting to go to any church. I feel worthless in God's eyes.
Ohhh … FUCK ME DEAD!!! No wonder we have all this youth crime. Kids need guidance through rules. If you disobey the rules you are punished. The world need to stop listening to these soft fucking woke CUNTS. life ain't easy
Interesting insights. Thank you
i love you, a brilliant loving and understanding man, and your wisdom i hope is listened to. x
I am a 26 year old mom of a 4yo and it breaks my heart to learn how wrong have I been for four long years, my poor baby
I dislike me so much for hurting him l, i wish I would've been more like the mom I'd love to had when i was little. I get mad, i don't control my self, i might spank him, and my heart hurts. It hurts because o had to learnt it myself, it hurts because I feel it's late and my kid it's all sad at me. I wish o can take it all back and hug him with all my heart all those nights he was crying and every fiber of my body asked me to picked him up. I wish I wouldn't treat him the way my mom some day did, it's so hard to break the cycle.. fking hard.
I'm so glad I have come across of these videos
I was severely neglected as a child. Joined the marines after high school to get away from my family and never looked back. This gabor mate guy is the only person that ever struck a chord with me on my childhood bullshit
Yea I am angry mother, andi want to do better but goodness my kids don't listen. I am a single mom of 2 boys
There are definitely truths in this, but I completely disagree with the details. Certainly agree with building a relationship with your children, but making a child happy should not be the ultimate goal.
I am not a Mom but I'm watching this for gaining more knowledge for when I'll Have kids in the future by God's will and potentially be a great mom for my kids.Thank you for the tips! 🙂
I Got Disowned by my Mother Guys
Same doctors who recommend Parental Estrangement. Nazi doctors…
My poor mother feeds me when I cry as baby girl instead give me attention so I became addicted to food to regulate my feelings.Similar to my father who was alcoholic.Job is done so now I learn to feel again and allow myself to go through anger fears etc.For adult woman is hard work.Thank you for this sharing ❤🙏🙏🙏
A beautiful, affirmation meditation to prepare you for a blissful day of parenting!
https://youtu.be/xqHv2R6Nr4g
My mom and grandma always told me don't pick up ur crying baby u will spoil them..then… I listened mostly with my 1st because I was a teen. It didn't quite feel right but I thought they knew best. By my 2nd I didn't listen much. By my 3rd I definitely know better. I now at 30 have a 12 year old a 3 year old and a 6 month old. I parent with love rather than discipline. I'm more present loving and patient. I sit with them during melt downs… I'm so happy I listened to that part of me that told me to love them through the storm. You can Never spoil ur child.
You are not permissive but you are also not demanding 👍
Best advice for raising snowflakes.
( REHAB TIME! ) MANY PARENTS DONT CHANGE. THEY STAY THE WAVE THEY R THIS MEANS MANY PARENTS WANT ACT AZ AN ALLY IN UR EXPANSION PATH ESPECIALLY IF IT OPPOSES THEIR NEEDS. FACTS OVA FEELINGS!
Great video
Who is this😭😭😭😭
I used to watch videos like this to feel validated- “oh that’s what my parents didn’t do” and wonder why I’m stuck in the same cycles of dysfunction.
After a lot of “working on myself” I’ve ended up here right now, with clarity I didn’t have before, that I’m grateful I have now.
I watched this video with a new motive in mind: if I were going to be a parent, what information would I want to keep in mind before I begin?
So, I’m searching for lessons on how to parent, as if preparing to be a parent. Lessons to enrich my capabilities as a caregiver, purely because I value being informed in my actions.
I’m not planning on being a parent, but where’s the harm in preparing myself anyway? Humans for all of history have children, and parent- whether purposefully or not: if it’s human to become a parent, I wish to be informed on how to be a good one, even if I never “need” that information.
Every human you interact with has a mental pathway developed by their relationship with their “parent” and because of that, knowing how to be a good parent is synonymous with knowing how to have positive interactions with every human alive.
Peace and love to you all.